to think they should have phoned me?

[Puffinsaresmall]

There was an incident at dd's school about 2 months ago where two children held her down and a 3rd kicked a ball in her face. She is 7, as are they. The one child who held her down told the other 2 to, respectively, hold her down/kick the ball.

I found out from dd not the school, which annoyed me, but my question is, bearing in mind I 'know' the parents of the children that did this (it's a very small school) AIBU to expect that when they found out they should have phoned me?

I 'know' them in the sense that we've attended parties together for 6 years, seen each other at plays/school fetes, would always stop and have a chat at pick ups/drop offs. Wouldn't go out socially together unless it was part of a larger group, so acquaintances rather than friends (although we are fb friends ).

I didn't know that the parents knew anything about it at all, but found out last night through mutual friends that they do know. I was really shocked that they didn't phone me to say 'Heard xxxx did this, really sorry, please be assured they'll be punished' kind of thing. I would have done this if situation reversed. I asked our mutual friends last night what they thought and they said they probably wouldn't have phoned, so AIBU?

Two months have passed might be tricky to get the real truth from the other girls. I agree with .Worra

I would definitely have called or talked to you about it the next time I saw you, I would tell you how I was dealing with it at home, and I would ask you to tell me if you thought my child was involved in anything like it again.

Around a year ago, my DD came home and told me that a boy had hit her in school.

Within an hour the boys dad and the boy were on my front doorstep to apologise. I think more of the dad because of it.

I would not think much of parents who didn't bother.