To expect my 14.5 year old DSD to flush the loo..

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Happens every week when she is here.
She is sitting in the kitchen in her dressing gown now having had a shower and a rather large dump.

Does she have FB? Could you threaten to post a photo? I bet that'd get the point across pretty quickly.

Is it not easy to say "DSD, can you PLEASE flush the toilet when you have used it?"

Great idea earnest will try that.

Tried that squeaky which is why I am so angry and fed up. And a bit..uuuugh about it all.

Do you remind her to?

She might come from a home where water on a meter = household trained to use fewer flushes (ugh but we ain't on a meter)

Just politely ask her to go and flush, with a polite indifference tone. Don't do it for her, but don't make a big deal of it.

If she refuses (hopefully unlikely), refuse to engage with her in any way until she agrees to go and flush. "Shall we go now" [giving her a lift into town] "sure hun, can you go and flush your rancid log first? Then we can go"

Etc.

Next time she does it do guided tours for the rest of the household. That should embarrass her into not behaving like a cavewoman!

It doesn't matter if water's on a meter, does it? She should still flush the loo.

Can you perhaps ask your dp to have a small chat with her? Smells like a bit of passive aggressive behaviour..

Water meters might entail letting the yellow mellow, but I doubt the girl's mum is discouraging her family from flushing poo! Unless she has an earth closet in the garden, in which case the cable is laid a lot deeper (and deodorised with wood chips) in the first place. She could however be having issues with the flush or not even know that the monster is still lurking - does your loo normally flush a turd away on first go? Because my folks had a loo for ages that almost never managed that - I often had to, er, manually reposition my brown shuttle (with a bit of loo roll between my hand and it) in order to get it into a better launch position. It was a massive and slightly yucky rigmarole but I usually did it because I knew it was the only way my poo would ever flush. If SD raises that issue when confronted, I'd suggest either leaving a strategically placed bog brush to use as a poo-poking device or direct her attention towards an existing one. If your relationship is normally good (you don't say) I doubt she's doing it to antagonise you...

Meh, Id just flush it if I saw it.

Fucking gross.

Thanks all. I have had a word.

She did say that her mum didn't like her flushing the loo at home at night as it woke people up!

It was 8pm though and I reassured her that her mum is not here to worry about being woken up by poo/flush noises whatever the time she needs to go. My DH has told me she had worms recently too, FFS.

Yuk- even my Cellar Dweller DS has been trained to flush and use a Toilet Duck disposable brush thingey when he has a dump.

Vile behaviour, very disrespectful to you.

Bet she doesn't wash her hands either [vom]