To not want to answer name threads from people who are only thinking of TTC!

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I love discussing names, love the idea that people want to talk about the ideas they have. However I find the idea of picking names before you even TTC weird. Especially if they are not names that have any significance to you, and then posting about those choices is even more strange.

I could be on my own with this one though.

It sounds like the sort of day-dreaming people do when they're not in the right place yet but would like to be. Which is harmless IMO.

(Bringing my own baggage?! Why yes! I've never started a name thread, though!)

DH and I are TTC at the moment, and have had a few lighthearted discussions about names we like/dislike, and in fact I remember at least one occasion pre-TTC as well. I don't think we're weird!

TTC and even just the run up to TTC is an exciting time, and it's nice to have a place like MN to come and chat about these things when you might not want/be able to with friends in rl. A day-dreamy browse through the baby names board can help while away a little bit of a frustrating 2ww :)

That said, I haven't felt the need to start my own thread yet. But I do think that to deliberately not reply to a genuine post purely because the poster doesn't have DC yet is a little bit on the mean side. There's nothing wrong with planning ahead!

YABU no harm in that.

I don't think there's any harm in saying you like or would choose X for a name, however, it annoys the hell out of me when friends say 'I am calling my child X name and would be really upset if you use it' given I am 33 weeks PG and they aren't planning to TTC for three years plus!

YABU - it's all part of the excitement of making that decision to TTC, and hopefully getting there one day, planning your future, etc.
Don't answer those threads if you think people are odd for having hopes and dreams they want to discuss
I love to think to myself about future DC names and how they would work with our surname etc. but I can't talk to anyone about that in RL, so MN is the ideal place!
Having said that I wouldn't start a thread specifically about it, but would comment on others saying what names I do/don't like

I love reading about the names people like and don't like. I can be as judgy as I like and I imagine what they are like from the things they want to name their DCs - hours of amusement or am I sad?

Bambie that is crazy isn't it? You can give any name you want to your child. I do not get some people inthis world at all. Very petty and cntrolling some are :(

DH and I have the odd discussion of what names we couldn't use for a (at the moment) very hypothetical second DC as they would be silly with DSs name. But I dont think I would start a thread.
Having said that even knowing when you are starting TTC is exciting and names are a huge descision.

Sits on fence

I have named my imaginary twins and everything

It drives me mad sole. Thankfully the names me and DH have picked aren't on the 'forbidden lists'

You may not know thses control freaks in three years. They may not be that lucky!!!!!!!!!!

I have a list in my head actually in my notes on iPhone and wonder whether to start a discussion, but then I think it's silly as I'm not yet pregnant. However the minute I get the blue/pink line I am so ready to start that thread
We are TTC so I guess we fit your criteria! But I can admit that even before we started that list of names was there!!! It's just got a bit bigger since starting TTC and I read the baby name posts even more!!!

its harmless, I dont see the problem really. the name will probably change by the time they get pregnant and have baby but its fun to think of names in advance
me and my sister used to post our lists up for comments on babynames.com when we were about 13

Where's the harm... I dream and talk about what I'd do if I won the lottery but it's highly unlikely I'll ever do it.

Yabu. My boyfriend and I have had lighthearted discussions about names and neither of us even want kids.

I liked to muse about what we might call our children before we were pregnant, but, I never decided for sure and then went to get public approval. It's like putting dibs on a name I guess.

It's harmless - but if you don't want to discuss it, you don't have to.