to be annoyed with the doctor's surgery?

[Ecgwynn]

On Tues 3rd I had some swabs to check I haven't got any infections before fitting a coil. I was told that the results would be available on Thursday or Friday and they'd give me a ring.

The next Tuesday I asked the receptionist about it and she said that the doctor hasn't looked at the results yet so I can't book the appointment to have the coil fitted.

On Thursday the doctor or nurse, I don't know which, left me an answerphone message asking me to ring her that day or the Friday. Being useless and also busy (I have an 11wk old baby) I only picked up the message this morning. I rang the surgery and the receptionist said I would have to wait until Thursday to talk to the person who originally rang me. I'm slightly worried that I have got an infection or something.

I am annoyed because I need to book an appointment in advance so my mother can look after the baby while I have the coil fitted. She needs notice to be able to babysit. I also really want some sex! I'm too scared to use condoms because I worry that I'll get pregnant (unlikely I know, but I'm paranoid).

AIBU to be annoyed, frustrated or worried I have an infection?

It's not the surgery's fault you didn't pick up your messages though.

It's only a few more days! And it doesn't take long to do

My doctor wouldn't fit my coil until my DD was 6 months old.

I'm sorry, I'm confused - do you mean they didn't get back to you Thursday/Friday and it was the Tuesday after that you got in touch? And they still weren't ready? Or you got in touch earlier than they said and then missed the message sent the day they said?

If the first, I'd be irritated too because they messed you around, and it is nervy waiting for news like this. If you just missed the message, it's not their fault, I'm afraid.

I'm sorry you're having a nervous wait. I hope it will all be fine.

they got in touch a week later than promised.
maybe dh could sue for blue balls!

Is your dh putting pressure on you to have sex?

Ewww, 'blue balls'? I have to say, I hate that term, it's horrible! He's not going to explode for lack of sex you silly.

But yes, I'd be fed up they got in touch a week late and I do think it is worth mentioning to someone when you get the results that you were told they'd be ready earlier - you don't need to 'complain' as such but I think they need to know they're giving out the wrong times and possibly worrying people.

No he's not pressurising me, I'm pressurising him! And yes, blue balls is a nasty phrase, I was joking.

I know, I'm just squeamish!

I can feel your frustration.
But are condoms, used carefully, any less safe than the coil you are going to have fitted? And there are other ways of enjoying yourselves.
I would just go for it!

You can be intimate without having intercourse.

And it's not their fault you missed their message. It is their fault they were late getting back to you.

Condoms (used properly) and slightly safer than the coil

I am surprised they will fit one so soon after birth, my friend had to wait six months.

MN is full of posts from mothers feeling bad because they have lost the urge for sex months after the birth, and worried about how it might affect their relationship.
And here you are with an 11 wk old baby, complaining that you can't have the sex you want.
Come on woman, grab your man and some condoms and get down to it!

You can have a coil fitted 6 weeks after delivery.

If they said they'd phone you on the Thursday or Friday they should have done; unless the results weren't back until the Monday and then you had phoned on the Tuesday?

But then it's not their fault you didn't return their call. And you could take the baby with you when you go to have the coil fitted as long as it's in it's pram.