to think this is yet another example of dh's selfish behaviour?

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I've been in hospital with dc for 5 days, and just got home. I did all nights, he gave me about 3 hours time out a day (7 hours yesterday) with my other dc which I was grateful for.
Well, he's now just gone to the dentist and announced he will add a one hour walk "because he needs some exercise otherswise he will not sleep tonight".
??????????????????????? wtf??????????????????????????????????????
I have been sleeping on a fold out bed, in a room with 3 sick children (who cried through the night because unwell) but I am now left at home with dc, with dinner to make, with washing to catch up on. I am antibiotics still as not feeling 100 per cent last week....

Has he been working & tending to DC the entire rest of the time? I'm not sure that one hour of exercise (his own Me-time) during a worrying week is too much to ask.
Sorry to hear you feel like crap. Maybe he can support you better if he gets his blood moving?

"with dinner to make, with washing to catch up on."

Could you make the diner and hand him the washing as he walks in and say 'dinner is on, please put this washing on'?

Thanks you are right. It's not much to ask.... but I have had no me time either...and that is just the pattern that annoys me. he take the me time from family time but I am expected to take that from work time (ie work less to have some time for me)...

plus "tending to the children" has not included the washing of clothes, shopping for food etc that it should involve. I have to catch up on that too....

DF- he does not do washing normally...or dinner....or fuck all in the house in fact...

(can you tell I am really annoyed)

Yes he sounds unreasonable, but make it easier for yourself too- beans on toast for dinner and wearing clothes for 2 days never killed anyone.

Obviously it's a bit late now but for the future...stop waiting on your DH and letting him get away with doing bugger all.

Why would anyone do that?

I agree with making meals much smaller and easier for now...but tackle the laziness in future.

As for the washing, I don't think it's a big deal for anyone unless you don't have a machine and have to wash clothes by hand.

It's a bind but at the end of the day, we do simply just separate clothes, chuck them in the machine and switch it on.

Take Me Time for yourself anyway. Hand him a list & say "Right I'm off for a facial & manicure, I'll be back in an hour. Here's stuff that needs doing if you possibly can."

Just do to him what he does to you.