to think that giving coffee to a 6 year old at 7.30 at night is daft.

[MammaTJ]

Went to church last night. We go once a month because my DDs are involved in a church organisation.

After the service there is tea and coffee and squash available.

I went with my DD and got a cup of tea for me and she cheekily asked for milk, which they gave her.

Sat down, chatting to a friend. DDs playing nicely.

Then I saw DD carrying a different mug. She had asked for coffee and been given it. I know the ladies serving drinks are very kind and sweet. But we are not even talking a normal 6 year old here, we are talking the Duracell Bunny on speed at the best of times. I took the coffee off her, retuned it and said with a smile that she is not allowed coffee.

I know the ladies don't know her but am I the only one a bit at someone even thinking it is ok to give coffee to a 6 year old or AIBU?

They probably thought it was for her parent and not for her

Did they maybe think that she was getting it for someone else?

Maybe they didn't like to say No? But they should have told her to go and ask her Mum.

I don't think YBU. DD (9) loves a cup of tea (decaf) but there's no way I'd let her have coffee, she'd be as high as a kite.

I wouldn't give a hot drink to a 6 year old without a parent there to supervise. Daft

YANBU. I wouldn't give coffee to a six year old. I'm surprised she asked for it. My child would find it disgusting.

I'm always a bit about kids having tea as well but each to their own

giving a 6yo coffee at any time of the day is daft

YABU. My 6yo DS has always liked coffee and has it regularly. It wouldn't bother me if he had it in the evening either, although he has never asked for it then, only when we are having it in the morning.

I cant even imagine a 6yo would like the taste of coffee. Reckon shed not be able to manage more than a first sip.

Coffee (unless decaf) and a child is a recipe for disaster. Hopefully they thought the coffee was for someone else.

The culture here in Sweden is different and the kids are given coffee if they want it, my little sister was staying with us 2 years ago she was 7 at the time and my OH's uncle gave her a cup of milky coffee at 7ish at night, he said oh its normal here all the kids can drink coffee if they want.

She was staying in a room with my cousin who was 15 and my sister couldnt sleep me and OH had gone to bed and my cousin told my sister you can't wake them up as we were going on a 10 hour drive the day after. i went to the loo in the night and my little sister was asleep on the tiled floor outside our room, i felt so so bad :(

No coffee for kids im looking after ever again!

I expect they thought she was fetching it for her parent, and I could imagine if she was and was informed she couldn't have it unless her parent came and said it was OK that would be a bit too. however you were on hand to see and redirect her choice, so there you go. Church tea ladies hand out cuppas, parents parent. Business as usual.

Gin and Gnocchi she was pushing her luck. She doesn't know what it tastes like. I can imagine she would have said it was yuck, had I let it get that far.

Funny he is obviously not as hyped up as my DD then. Without coffee she is hard work!!

Jenner I know you are right and I was there and did stop it as soon as I realised.

I drank coffee from pre-school. I wasn't hyperactive.

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I used to go and get tea and coffee for my parents from a similar age. They weren't to know who it was for

Crazy a 6 year old having coffee < the memory of ds drinking a whole can of will never fade > caffeine before bedtime a bad idea

Whole can of red bull

It's coffee, not crack. You don't start lepping around like a bad acid trip from one sip.

It is not their job to parent your child. If your child is not allowed coffee, that's your issue to enforce.

Tell your 6 year old bit to behave this way again, if she's not to drink coffee she shouldn't ask for it.

Why do you think these ladies should be supervising your child? That's your job, there's is to give drinks.

jeeeze.. I drank coffee from about the age of 4... so long as it isnt espresso, then I cant see any problem..

six year olds are perfectly capable and old enough to drink hot drinks, why on earth wouldnt some people let them??

I did supervise my child. I stopped her from drinking it!

I would let her drink a hot drink, just not coffee and not when it past her normal bedtime!

She is perfectly able to drink cocoa or very weak tea, but she doesn't ever want them.

She was just pushing her luck, because they had given her milk, she thuoght she would see how far they went. I was surprised they went that far.

thebody, tell you what, you come and tell her. I am having her assessed for ADHD, not quite as simple as having a word. Like I already said, she is like the duracell bunny on speed at the best of times!!

Mamma DS1 is full on but coffee doesn't seem to affect him one way or the other, so if it does affect your DD then yes she should certainly not drink it.