to be cheesed off with my house being overrun with DSS2's little friends?

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This afternoon, DSS2 (6) asked if his friends could come in and play in his room. Next thing we knew, there's the 2 boys that he normally plays with, both of their little siblings, and a new brother & sister pair which he's befriended in the last couple of days - so 7 kids aged 3-8(?) trooping in to pile into DSS2's tiny, cluttered bedroom. To put this in to further context, yesterday I came down with a cold and at the time of the invasion, I was BFing my nearly 8wk old DD on the sofa. Also DP was busy starting to cook Sunday lunch.

Later (after kicking them all out sharpish), DSS2 was allowed to invite in one of the usual boys and the new boy he's befriended - the usual boy went home after 20mins for lunch. New boy comes downstairs 5mins later and demanded a biscuit from DP (DP said there were none). Another 10 mins later, DSS2 & new boy trot downstairs and DSS2 says that they're going back outside to play - as DSS2 is halfway out the door, new boy turns around and says "Actually, I don't want to go out; I'm going back up", and promptly trots back upstairs (the words "cheeky little so-and-so" came to mind), so I had to shout after DSS2 to tell him to come back in to stay with his friend.

New boy seems to be a total little sh*t (as backed up by a neighbour this evening). Should I try to discourage this new acquaintance?

I think you should set some boundaries in your house. If you let kids run riot, don't be moaning about it.

Well as the adult you are entitled to say no to all these children in the house!

at 6 this is usual behaviour....he asked for a biscuit and you percive this as demanding.

he decided he was having more fun in your house...you percive this as little so and so.

I think you are being to harsh on him, however I think your Dh shoukd step up a bit and support you with all these dcs.

You need to set some ground rules...ie, no one in the house ever.

My dd also 6 plays out with 3 children in our close, none of them are allowed in the house. If they want to play together they can play outside, other wise dd comes in and they can clear off . I do spare the odd biscuit and ice lolly though.

You're applying adult ideas to children's behaviour. I doubt he demanded a biscuit or was being rude about staying in your house. He just wanted a biscuit and enjoyed plying in your house.

If you don't like it don't let them in. We have open house policy with our teen dcs and then my 6 year old doesn't really ply out but can have whoever over whenever. If I decided I didn't enjoy having them round, I would put an end to it all.

I think it is normal for kids to want their friends in to play. I think it is actually preferrable to them playing outside as you can monitor them more closely, especially if you are not too keen on this 'cheeky' child, you have a lot more control.

I would however set firm boundaries from the start though. I would set a limit as to how many kids he brings in, how long they can stay inside for (have had one mum try to palm her kids off for most of the day) and tell them that they can have water/juice and 1 biscuit. Thank heavens my DC's are past inviting all and sundry in to play. Good luck!

We stopped them all coming in the house, much to DSS2's protests that they could all fit in his room (yes, if they were all standing on the bed due to all the crap in his room!!).

The new boy just has a really odd personality from what I've seen in the street, and especially after yesterday in the house. It was just the way he was around the house - he kept asking what DSS1 (13) was doing in his room (playing on his xbox), how long he played for, etc, even though DSS1 had his door closed and was staying well out if the way of his DB's friends (I went up to check if DSS1 had been bothered and it sounded like new boy had walked out of DSS2's room and gone into DSS1's room to look at what he was doing - no mean feat with a pram in front of DSS1's bedroom door in a narrow hallway). No manners at all - according to DP, the request for a biscuit was "I want a biscuit"; no please, not even said politely, unlike all his other friends.

Also, after speaking to the neighbour, I don't really want DSS2 playing with the sister much either (neighbour said she went outside last week to tell them to stop screaming while they were playing as she couldn't hear the tv, and the girl told her if she didn't like it, she should move house!). I haven't seen him play with this bro & sis much before, but we've just found out that one of his friends is moving house next week so he's going to have less children to play with in the summer hols - argh!!!

Think I might re-invoke the no friends inside to play due to DD BFing/sleeping policy...

You're right to put in some boundaries now you have a baby to tend to.

Yabu to dislike a 6 year old based on one visit and neighbours opinions. What sort of grown ups stand around bitching aboutt 6 year olds?