to not want family members to constantly correct my dd's grammar

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Dd only turned 2 in May and her speech is coming along very well, but family members are often correcting her mid sentence. Is it really that important that a 2yr old shows the correct usage of me, I, and you? Surely it's more important to learn the basics first, or AIBU?

YANBU. my dd is 2 and going through this at the moment.

Last week she kept saying "I doesn't need my coat on"

My dad corrected her and said "I don't need my coat on"

Dd turned around straightaway and said "I don't either "

Priceless!!

I tend to correct in a round about way, so if DD said ' I eated a biscuit' then I would repeat back to her 'so you ate a biscuit, was it nice?' - do you see how easy it is to do nicely! Perhaps if they see you doing that and you can explain what you are trying to do, then they may stop it. Its a tad infuriating though I know!

YABU. It takes a village and all that

I wouldn't correct mid sentence... You're right. I would repeat what she said in agreement though... Using the correct grammar so she gets to hear how it should sound without feeling like she got it wrong or wasn't understood. If that make sense.

See in Babylons example, he should have said 'no you dont need your coat one do you'

Just 2 is very young for correct usage of pronouns :)

How do kids learn if you dont teach them and correct them?

Totally agree with androbbob, it's how most Nursery/Reception teachers do it.

Always let them finish their sentence...then repeat back correctly in a chatty way.

I perpetually correct poor grammar. can;t stand double negatives >shudder

Snap androbbob :)

they should model the correct form back to her, not tell her she is wrong mid sentence. I think you should tell them not to as it is very off putting having a conversation when someone keeps correcting you.

Yabu

Repeating what they've said but using correct grammar, us how I've always done it with kids at school and now my own two year old (as described above)

It's actually quite bad for them to be corrected like that. (I know because I studied language acquisition at uni.) It might put them off just talking away. In fact, grammatical mistakes like that are totally predictable as they follow a certain pattern. They need to go through them in order to learn. It's very similar to second language acquisition.
They will learn in their own time by hearing adults speak in the right way.

So no, YANBU and I would be pissed off too!

YANBU. Them speaking is the very most important thing. With an older child, well with all of them really, I would repeat their statement back as a mirror question, but with the correct grammar, as in, 'We goed to the park.' 'You went to the park, did you have fun?'. Then they get to hear it, but I would never interrupt them, or tell them they are wrong. I would never, never correct a tiny person's speech.

My FIL does this with 3 yo DD1 (who speaks English with me and Swedish with DH) and then grumbles about declining grammar standards anong the youth of today

I'm another one who lets them finish then repeats back with correct pronunciation I'm afraid-if you don't teach her now then you'll have to do it later.

It can put a child off trying, she might respond by being quieter around them, depends on her personality. Speak to them.

YANBU. I actively encourage my DC to use cute baby phrases. Theres plenty of time for correct grammar IMO. And I don't correct. I like evolving speech

She won't learn by correction - she is trying out the rules based on what she hears. That is how children learn a language, not by imitation. She will learn in her own time. A mistake such as 'goed' is intelligent as the child is overapplying a general rule, which is to add -ed to make a past tense. The child will learn the irregular ones in time. You won't find an adult who says 'goed' or 'foots' or 'mouses'.