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Original poster

To tell DH that me and the DCs are going to London without him?

34 replies

Snottgrass · 15/07/2012 22:22

DH went berserk at me this morning because I mentioned museums. I've always liked museums and whenever we're in the town centre I like to take the kids to them. Last weekend we were in the centre and I said "oh why don't we go to the museums" and dh mocked my voice and repeated "ooo yes why don't we go to the museums for the millionth time?" and the kids laughed. We had words about that later in which DH called me a "boring cunt".

That's the history.

Anyway DS went to Berlin last week and got back yesterday. I asked him "did you go to any nice museums?" and DH snapped "again with the fucking museums, there is more to life than museums" etc etc. DS backed him up and said "yeah and they were boring, because museums are, by nature, boring." Hmm

So again me and DH not talking.

Tonight we were discussing a trip we have to London coming up for the summer holidays and I said "I'd like to see the natural history museum" and DH replied "yes, I'm sure we'll get to see that." So assuming we were ok on the subject I added "are there any other museums worth seeing in London?" and he went absolutely barking mad and threw his glass and started shouting "Museums" over and over again.

I've been mulling it over and AIBU to tell him I'm going without him?

OP posts:
JumpingThroughHoops · 15/07/2012 22:26

You seem more upset he doesn't like museums rather than the fact your children take the piss out of you and he calls you a cunt and smashes glasses. Is your relationship always so tempestuous?

attheendoftheday · 15/07/2012 22:26

He called you a cunt and threw a glass? I think you have bigger problems than holiday planning.

wrathomum · 15/07/2012 22:27

Oh my goodness. There's a whole group of museums close to the nat hist museum in London and they're free! So it's not like you feel the need to spend all day in them because you've spent a small fortune on admissions.

squeakytoy · 15/07/2012 22:29

Well I would be going somewhere with the kids, but it wouldnt be a museum, it would be a hotel until he had packed his bags and fucked off.

attheendoftheday · 15/07/2012 22:29

On a more practical note, if you do go you can go to your museums while he does something else. He will be the one missing out.

I would hate that he appears to be modelling such a negative attitude about educational places to your kids though.

LentillyFart · 15/07/2012 22:29

So I suppose the list of his redeeming features wouldn't take too long to compile?

LentillyFart · 15/07/2012 22:30

Precisely squeaky

JumpingThroughHoops · 15/07/2012 22:33

Mind you, if you know his outlook on museums, why did you ask if he visited any in Berlin? Were you looking for a bit of fight? Subtly pointing out his short comings as a philistine?

In seriousness, I'd be leaving him with the kids and having a nice day trundling round galleries and museums without any negativity in my wake.

WorraLiberty · 15/07/2012 22:33

YY because your incompatibility regarding museums is the real problem here isn't it?......

gordyslovesheep · 15/07/2012 22:35

Fook me - seriously - he called you a cunt, screamed at you and smashed a glass - what Squeaky said 100000000 times over

yellowraincoat · 15/07/2012 22:38

Bloody hell. He sounds horrible OP. You seem really calm about the whole thing, but he called you a cunt. He mocks the things you like. He threw a glass. He screamed at you. Those things aren't OK.

I'd be fucking off to London permanently. Without him.

Your kids need to learn a bit of respect as well.

seeker · 15/07/2012 22:38

So- apart from the museum thing he's a perfect partner and father, yes?

LentillyFart · 15/07/2012 22:39

Stand by for OP to tell us what a great dad he is................if she ever comes back.

lowestpriority · 15/07/2012 22:42

Sorry, but I actually cringed when you said you had asked your DH about visiting museums in Berlin. Were you winding him up on purpose or are you just completely obsessed with museums?

bejeezus · 15/07/2012 22:42

Has he a museum phobia maybe?

I may react like this, if someone kept trying to take me to spider displays...

stuffitunderthebed · 15/07/2012 22:42

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Original poster
Snottgrass · 15/07/2012 22:43

DS went to Berlin, not DH.

OP posts:
yellowraincoat · 15/07/2012 22:44

lowest, she didn't ask her husband, she asked her son.

Anyway, unless the OP is literally addicted to museums, spends all their money in museum gift shops and insists they live in a museum, it's pretty obvious her partner is being a bit of a knob.

LentillyFart · 15/07/2012 22:44

Are you actually seeing and reading any of the replies here OP?

Original poster
Snottgrass · 15/07/2012 22:45

Yes I am

OP posts:
seeker · 15/07/2012 22:45

Grin at museum phobia. Poor damaged, suffering soul. The OP should immediately change her behaviour to accommodate him.

squeakytoy · 15/07/2012 22:46

her SON went to Berlin, not her husband..

babyheaves · 15/07/2012 22:47

So it's the OP's fault that he called her a cunt, threw a glass and undermined her with the children just because she talked about something she enjoys doing?

Oy! Angry

CaliforniaLeaving · 15/07/2012 22:50

Well not everyone enjoys museums but the op's dp does seem to be having an over reaction to the idea of them and in turn is trying to turn his kids against the idea of them. Name calling and throwing stuff is definitely ott and he needs to learn to control himself and be more respectful, calling the mother of his children a cunt is a very big deal.
He's a total ass and I'd go to London with the kids to visit museums without him. He'll just be rude every step of the way why bother taking him.

seeker · 15/07/2012 22:52

Of course it is, babyheaves- don't you understand how the world works?