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Original poster

To have told ds he didnt have to bother with his homework this weekend

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laptopdancer · 15/07/2012 20:59

He finishes on wednesday and tuesday is sports day. I know its a bit bad but was I too bad telling him he could leave it? There was a lot.

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KittyFane1 · 15/07/2012 21:00

How old is he?

Original poster
laptopdancer · 15/07/2012 21:01

7

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WorraLiberty · 15/07/2012 21:01

You haven't given the reason why you told him he didn't have to bother with it.

What do finishing on Wednesday and having sports day on Tuesday have to do with anything?

ChippingInNeedsCoffee · 15/07/2012 21:01

How old is he?

What was it for?

Original poster
laptopdancer · 15/07/2012 21:02

It was the end of a tough year, I think all the kids are tired and its just time to call it a day for the year IMO

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ilovesooty · 15/07/2012 21:02

I'm wondering the same as Worra

ChippingInNeedsCoffee · 15/07/2012 21:02

Totally NBU. He can do it in the holidays if it's maths/reading etc and if it's some art project it's not going to matter is it.

LadySucre · 15/07/2012 21:02

I wouldnt have bothered doing it either. The teacher wont mark it and they will have a new teacher in sept.

ilovesooty · 15/07/2012 21:03

X post.

So are you going to write to the teacher to that effect?

Shakirasma · 15/07/2012 21:04

It wasn't the end of a tough year, that will be on Wednesday.

Sarcalogos · 15/07/2012 21:04

Chipping you lack of understanding about the value of creative subjects is astonishing.

But OP, is the reason really because he's 'tired'? What ALL weekend?

Mutt · 15/07/2012 21:04

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ilovesooty · 15/07/2012 21:05

Yes, the end of the year is on Wednesday. I'm surprised you're bothering to send him to school at all. Hmm

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laptopdancer · 15/07/2012 21:05

Actually, homework isn't compulsory. We have never been commented on on the rare occasion he has missed it. We have never been led to believe its compulsory now you mention it.

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Hassled · 15/07/2012 21:08

I nearly did the same with my 10 year old. He's knackered. They're all knackered. There's a few days to go and the bucketload of homework he had this weekend just seemed harsh and unnecessary. I said nothing and it's all done, but I was this close to saying don't bother.

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laptopdancer · 15/07/2012 21:13

I might wake him early and get him to do it before school. The last 2 weeks haven't been collected but I assume they will gather the bunch and put it in a folder or something so I'll get him to do what he can at least.

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SandStorm · 15/07/2012 21:14

If it's not compulsory this is a bit of a non issue really, isn't it?

Flojo1979 · 15/07/2012 21:15

Tired? From what?
Homework isn't some compulsory chore, its to give parents some of the responsibility of educating their own kids surely to help the cross over between school and home education so u r all singing from same sheet surely? Or am I missing the point?

Flojo1979 · 15/07/2012 21:17

Wake him early to do it?
Ah that's why he's tired!
I wouldn't wake him early, I'd have made time in the normal waking wkend.

NoLogo · 15/07/2012 21:18

Mutt, don't we all, parents and school, support the child?

Supporting the school by getting him to do a bit of homework, is a non-issue.

We allowed DS1 (9) not to do his last project for homework. We read with him, practice writing, and have a personal tutor, but this was the third "project" he was given in a year and, due to his dyslexia, we felt it was too much. Too much reading to get through around the subject a third time, so we just concetrated on the dyslexia stuff.

Mutt · 15/07/2012 21:21

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invicta · 15/07/2012 21:21

Ican't believe he has homework so close to the end of term. Will the teacher actually mark it? I wouldn't worry.

NoLogo · 15/07/2012 21:22

Those sour cats' arsehole faces (Hmm) are really helpful. They are pissing me off and I'm not even the OP.

All you sour pusses, go suck on a lemon, it might sweeten you up.

Lucyellensmum99 · 15/07/2012 21:23

Sometimes i feel like a bit of an ogre making DD do her homework. She is 6 and just gets spelling and reading. She struggles with it, but i make her do it because it sends her the message that sometimes you have to do things you dont want to do. It supports the school (i expect them to support me so its only fair/polite that i reciprocate) and there are 30 other children in her class who get homework and they have to do it, why should she not do it?

Saying that, there have been times when i think that homework is a crock of shit and i don't want to upset my DD because she is tired and really doesn't want to do it. (We have had issues because it just ended up with DD doing too many after school activities and consequently only having the one evening to do it as trying to get her to do it at the weekend was impossible, as had activities then too - we are cutting out most of the activities next year).

So im sorry but YABU, yes this particular peice of homework, in the grand scheme of things is probably not that important, but its about what message you are sending yoru son about responsibility.

Lucyellensmum99 · 15/07/2012 21:26

NoLogo, i think your situation is different though as i imagine i may find my DD in a similar position as she progresses through school and indeed i do worry that she is dyslexic. I would definately be making my own decisions on what DD will be able to cope with in the evenings i think. But to not make her do ahomework just because its the end of term so it doesnt really matter is not the right thing to do.

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