Would this be unreasonable to ask a mum I am sort of friendly with?

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DS2 (9mths) has just come out in chicken pox, DS1 had it 2 weeks ago so was expecting it.

It's DS1's last week at pre-school this week (he only goes Tues/Wed morning). We often walk home with a little boy and his mum, they live about 1 street away and have to walk past my front door to go to pre-school (which is a 10 mintue walk). I can get someone over to have DS2 so I can collect DS1 but won't be able to get him there. Obvioulsy wouldn't take DS2 out (despite the temptation!)

Would it be really off of me to ask if she would mind taking DS1 for me? I can't decide if this is really not the doen thing or whether she would mind. DS1 doesn't want to miss his last 2 days, there is lots going on.

What do you think?

It's very normal.
About 3 weeks after my eldest started school I very badly damaged my ankle, so for a couple of weeks a neighbour came down and collected my DS to take him to school and brought him home. What made it worse is he made a dreadful fuss, she just prized him off me and he was fine (I could barely walk and the school was up hill). It's part of the Mum's give and take that makes life possible. I'm sure you will do the same for her, or someone else sometime.

Thanks all, will give her a call later.

mummytime thats really nice.

I would happily help someone else out if needed, never been asked but would do it in a heartbeat.

"seeker all of those stated plus a compromised immune system or close contact with someone with a compromised immune system or someone pregnant with no CP immunity."

gamerwidow, the DS had chicken pox 2 weeks ago, so will no longer be infectious, so collecting him at the door has absolutely no risk of anything.

I would do it too, it's not like you are asking her to commit to a long term arrangement! I think most people would be happy to do this as a favour.

Why can you not put the baby in a pram and take him the short walk to school, get there dead on time pop the other child in and walk home.

Of course you should ask her. In RL, this is what parents do for each other all the time on the way to school / Nursery. I've only ever come across any person who might be the slightest bit funny about it on MN, so perhaps your first question should be Are you a MNer?

Of course, you still then won't know if she's normal, like most of us, or the odd, strange one who might think it was an invasion of privacy or against her human rights or something.

I had this problem a few years ago. I asked a mum who I had sort of known for a while, but not well. Our DC were in the same class and they walked past our house to get to school. The result - the mum was happy to help, our DC really bonded during the walk and became best friends and the mum has now become one of my best friends and we regularly help each other with pick ups etc.! So definitly ask!

iamme43 did think of that but didn't want to get flamed for suggesting it. Was considering putting raincover on, then surely he won't pass it on?! We leave them outside on the secure playgroud when dropping off anyway.

Still undecided. Will ask her and see.

But why take the baby when you don't have to- the other mother won't have to put herself out even the tiniest bit to take your ds to school with hers!

Yep your right.

IME most people are nice. Including, especially, the network you build up at the school gate. It is not the savage throng of crocodiles everyone onMN makes it out to be, dammit.

I speak as someone who sent out emergency texts this afternoon after tomorrow's after-school childcare broke down, and sorted out both Inferiorettes to their mates pronto.

Obviously we may see a thread on AIBU to object to this dreadful woman who asked me to do her a very small favour which didn't put me out in any way but still made me feel Very Upset....but somehow I doubt it

motherinferior - I know your right, they all seem to already know each other (from before pre-school) and therefore already do favours for each other, and feel like I'm pushing in. However she is lovely, as is her DS.

She'll probably offer to bring him back as well. Result.