i ve got a 7mnth old dd. for the first time today i left her with in laws. they came round to our house and as i was leaving i explained to them that i was only going for half an hour or so as i had a works do to go to afterwards. i told them that dd would be ready for her afternoon nap in 40 mins so in 20 mins i wanted them to put her baby einstein dvd on as it relaxes her before her sleep. i got back and they hadnt put her dvd on and she was looking tired so i just put it on and told them i would get changed ready to go while they were still here. when i came back they were still trying to entertain dd. then they wanted a drink and stayed for another hour and a half.
they understand that we have great problems with dd sleep and that she really needs to go to sleep in the car seat to get to sleep in the afternoon. she has to go after being awake for 3 hours. so dd got exhausted and got stranky while they were here but they still wouldnt go. i felt too polite to say ok can you go now. in the end i had to put dd on my boob to get her to sleep and she slept a 45 min sleep cycle and then later when i put her in the car seat she couldnt get back to sleep. (she needs 2-3 hours in the afternoon)
i kept dropping hints i was supposed to be at this works do but they just stayed until i finally said i really am going to have to go.
so for the rest of the day dd was really massively overtired and didnt sleep long enough now she is awake i missed the works do. ive got a ball of anger inside me that wont go away.
- they didnt listen to my instructions about the dvd and the sleep times
- they dont seem to have listened to me that i was telling them when my dd was tired and needed to go to sleep
3 they totally disregarded the fact that i was due to go somewhere (with my dd i have to point out)
- im angry at myself for not having the balls to say quickly at the beginning ok i have to go.
if it was my mum i can talk to her straight but my partner has this like mega awkward respect for his mum and dad and they can never do any wrong and if i say they have done something not quite right he always sticks up for them. they ll probably enver know the bloody shitty day i ended up having all because they outstayed their welcome and now ive been up all frikin night with an overtired baby that cant settle,.
they ahve pissed me off loads before by not respecting me and not listening to things that i say.
it makes me not want them to spend any time with my dd. (this is unreasonable of me i know) and i definitely dont want them to have her in their charge as they clearly wont follow my dds routine.
i just wanted to get this off my chest somewhere because i cant do it anywhere else.
thanks for reading if you have. im sure theres worse things could happen.