To think SIL is asking waaaay too much?

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DH and I never hear from his sister, she doesn't even send out 3 young DC birthday cards although we always them them to her DC. We haven't spoken to her for a year (after we looked after our niece, her DD, for a week last Summer) and out of the blue she called us to say they were going on an exotic holiday for 2 weeks but upon their return could they drop off their DS (13) with us (at 2am) so that we could drive him to a beach pop festival two hours away, leaving here at 5am so her DS could get there early to meet his mates and find a good spot...... DH said no, we haven;t heard from her since, who was BU?

SIL

She is, it wouldn't take much to generate mutual goodwill so this sort of thing would be ok, and she hasn't bothered.

SIL. Why couldn't they drop him off at the festival?

He was right to say no.

Neither of you. She had every right to ask, and you had every right to say no.

Bloody hell! Entitled much. Some people are unbelieveable. I wouldn't ask that of someone I know and get on with really well, nevermind someone I barely keep in touch with.

They could have dropped him off, but apparently it would have meant them waiting around for a few hours after their flight got it (airport 1 hr away from festival...)

You had every right to say no.

Some people would maybe base their decision on whether they wanted to take him rather than what they thought of his parents, but it's up to you.

If she didn't contact you before you're hardly going to lose out.

I think SIL

DH did feel that he should have said said purely because he loves his nephew but thought about it for a while and concluded SIL asked purely for her own convenience...

I wouldn't ask that of my sister and we get along very well and see each other's children all the time.

you were right to refuse

Some people would maybe base their decision on whether they wanted to take him rather than what they thought of his parents, but it's up to you

I am assuming you don't want to have to be awake to greet a teenager at 2am and then leave home at 5am to take him to a festival which he will be able to go to anyway, just at somebody else's inconvenience?

I wouldn't. In this case, it is not the boy you are inconveniencing, it is the parents. And that is fine.

Also, I don't agree with the fact that she had every right to ask. Anyone would realise this is a huge inconvenience (overused word!) for the askee (made up word?) and would think long and hard about whether they needed to ask.

I can't imagine saying to someone, 'look, I can't really be bothered to hang around for a few hours when I could get home to my bed, so will you please get up at 2am and then again at 5am and do a 4hr return drive just so that I don't have to?'

If someone thinks they have the right to ask a favour like this, they are a very inconsiderate person in the first place.