In cooking vegetarian meals when I have a meat eating guest coming to stay?

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DP's mate is coming to stay at the end of the month for a week. We eat a vegetarian diet because I am vegetarian and it makes it easier for DP and I when cooking (we share the cooking 50/50 as we both enjoy it) but DP knows I'm happy for him to eat meat and happy to cook it.

DP has asked his mate if he particularly wants us to get meat in for when he stays and he says he's not fussed (he's somebody who doesn't like speaking up about things though), but my housemate has said it'll be really unreasonable of me to not cook meat for this guy. Housemate is currently on a faddy diet of meat and sauce with nothing else twice a day so I'm not sure whether he's just being close-minded as usual about this or not!

So WIBU to just not bother with cooking meat when DPs friend is here? I know DP won't bother as he finds it hard to concentrate on more than one meal going at once, whereas I'm capable of it with a couple of burnt bits but just can't be arsed to do it!

Your housemate is wrong.

nah, if he is staying then he eats with you, so fits in with the family!

YANBU, you were good enough to offer and he said no. It won't kill him to have a weekend of no meat!

I wouldn't bother personally. If he's desperate for it surely he'll just go get himself some in the week?

Even the most meat obsessed person will be fine for a week without the stuff. I would cook as you normally do, if the visitor is desperate for meat they will suggest getting a takeaway in or going out for a meal

Yanbu.

I eat meat but would have no problem whatsoever with a veggie only menu if I was the house guest in a vegetarian household.

BUT PLEASE make sure you are not the only one cooking while this mate of your dp's come to stay. Dp and the mate himself also need to cook!

If its how you usually eat, and he says he's not fussed, then why would you?

If I am invited to dinner by a vegetarian, I wouldn't expect them to serve meat. Most people eat quite a lot of vegetarian food these days, anyway, even if they do eat meat, as well.

Yanbu at all. If I were a veggie it wouldn't even occur to me to offer to cook him meat!

Noqontrol: I thought that too, DP has a couple of more meat-orientated food places he'd like to try and thinks it'd be a perfect time to (which I agree with!)

As an complete meat lover I have to say I'd feel weird going to a vegetarian's house and eating a separate meaty meal. Much rather eat what you are eating.

I love meat but don't actually eat it that much! So wouldn't even notice if you gave me veggie dinners.

Not U at all. You cook what you cook! He's a guest in your home, you cater to seriously allergies etc but if you don't cook meat, you don't cook meat.

I'll second that. He won't die if he doesn't eat meat for a week. I'm sure he'll be grateful for whatever you cook him, if he is a guest or if not he has the sense to keep quiet about it Maybe if he's a really nice bloke you could get your DP to do a roast one day?

YANBU. I'm not veggie and I've just enjoyed a lovely lentil blog. Even to a meat eater veggie food is tasty and filling, you don't have to get meat in, you offered, he declined.

ahem, it's DH and me, not DH and I Sorry, came fresh from the AIB Pedant Thread.

No, not at all. You are a veggie. He is staying at your house. He can eat both veg and meat. You can't (or prefer not to for whatever reason). It's not like meatless meals are a hardship, is it? (Have you got the River Cottage Veg Book? I'd rather eat my way through that than have steak every night!)

Mind you, my FIL who is a twat would agree with your housemate. But you don't have to take any notice of twats.

Not U at all - my parents don't eat meat and so we know we won't eat meat at their house. When they come to stay with us, I don't cook meat here either - mostly because I know the smell of meat would be horrible to them and would put them off whatever they want to eat, but also because I can't be arsed to cook two meals

Minty: I'm sure I won't be, DP is getting really excited about cooking him a vegetarian roast dinner /

Stubborn: I even suggested getting a chicken to roast but the idea was shot down in flames by DP who wants to make his now famous nut roast.

Reshape: The pedant in me appreciates it I have got the Veg Book by Hugh, whether it's the same as the River Cottage one though I don't know!

Surely its dh and I reshape ? Dh and me just sounds all wrong

yanbu. XP was a total carnivore but even he was pleasantly surprised with some of the veggie food my mum cooked when we went round for dinner. Believe me, he would have told me if he hadn't of liked it.

Mind you, if his body isn't used to that much fibre he might spend more time in the loo while he's with you.

I always thought it was 'X and I...' - that's what I was taught at school! Have I been getting it wrong for the last 20 years?

It's dh and I.

Take away the "-and X" and if it still sounds rit then it is. "dh and I cooked....." "I cooked......" right? "dh and me cooked....." "me cooked........." wrong.

Oh, and of course you don't have to cook meant for meat eaters if you're a vegetarian!

'for DH and me' is correct. You only use 'I' when 'I' is the person in the sentence doing things, not the person to whom or for whom stuff is being done.

I would feel really awkward if a veggie cooked me meat - even if you don't mind doing so, the guest would probably feel really guilty.

Your flatmate is peculiar.

Cook what you would normally cook. If he wants something different, he should do it himself.

Ah- sorry, yes. "Cooking for dh and me" "cooking for me" right "cooking for dh and I" "cooking for I" wrong.

But but but.... isn't the op doing things as well, ie the cooking? Still