to let my dd go to school in her pj's?

[slightlymentalmum2one]

It's her disco tomorrow so they are allowed to wear their own clothes and she desperately wants to wear her all in one PC's to school. I've tried to convince her otherwise but she's having none of it. Should I just let her? Ifit makes a difference she is 7

I think I would discourage her, on the basis that when she gets there and realises she's the only one in PJs, she might feel uncomfortable. However if she insists, then I'd probably let her but maybe send a bag with a change of clothes in just in case.

I would let her but take a bag of extra clothes in case she changes her mind once she's there.

Could you check with other mums to see what their dd are wearing?

All of her friends wear girly, glittery dresses and suchlike. I've told her that people will probably laugh at her and she may get teased but she was adamant before bed. Perhaps I could hide it so she can't find it tomorrow?

Just say no, it's not appropriate to wear pjs in public, end of.

Could she be persuaded to wear an all in one meant for day wear, like a playsuit maybe?

I'd be inclined to avoid her doing so tbh - she might get other children commenting and she may feel a bit put off once there and everyone else is in proper clothes.

Are her other friends planning on wearing their onesies? maybe its a fashion thing?

of course its not inappropriate to wear pjs in public - id much rather my DD be wanting to wear her pjs rather than try and dress like a teenager?

My DD is 7 and id probably dissuade if the other children aren't going to wear them but you never know, they might have all agreed to do it

Argh I don't know she'd a stubborn little thing sometimes and she is determined on this. I also don't really approve of wearing pj's in public but it's better than the short skirts, belly tops and make up some of the children wear.

I'm also not sure how she would take being teased sometimes it goes straight over her head, other times she ends up :s devastated. But I suppose it's a good way of letting her express her personality

No way.

I judge anyone in pjs during the day. Anyone

I wouldn't. There is no place for PJ's at a school disco, 7 or not. As a parent I'd put my foot down here. It's great that she is so strong willed and isn't worried about what people think, but I wouldn't want to risk her night being ruined by being teased.

Could you send her in disco clothes but say she can take her PJs in a bag to change into in the loo if she wants to. Surely she wouldn't do this would she?

So it's either a onesie or short skirts and belly tops? No, really it isn't!

If she doesn't want to do the whole girly thing then jeans and a pretty top will be better than chavvy pyjamas

She is 7 yo; of course she can go to the disco in her pyjamas if she wants

It doesn't matter what any of the other children are doing; and she certainly doesn't need to wear something 'pretty'

I wouldn't be so sure Mulberry

No way

Noooooo! I hate to be snobby, but it is really chavvy. Could you take her shopping after school and before the disco, and let her pick something out new that she likes that's not pjs?

Point out that she might need a wee, and the state of the school toilets is liable to be such that her onesie oh how I loathe that word might get dirty/wee on it from the floor in there.

I wouldn't allow it. Pyjamas are not for wearing in public (unless it's a sponsored wear pjs to school type day!).

Do you think she might be saying she wants to wear her PJ's because she has heard other girls saying what they will be wearing, and doesn't feel like she has anything to match them so is going down the completely opposite route so as not to be compared to them?

Maybe reading too much into it, but it reminds me of a time when a friend of mine insisted we go to town on a teacher training day in our school uniform to 'pretend school was on that day' to anyone we saw from school. Turns out she didn't have anything to wear that she wasn't ashamed of :( We were a bit older than 7 though. But all of this 'impressing' business starts so much earlier these days.

I thought it was the senior school children who wore onesies and other barmy costumes on non uniform days.

I think I'd send her in something sensible and let her take it. I doubt she'll bother to change.

No, I'd tell her PJs are for bed and tell her to wear something else.

I don't know what this trend is with being reluctant to say a simple no?

No I don't think I would. I'd ask her why she wants to wear pyjamas as pyjamas are for bed and not parties. Unless quite a few others are wearing them and it's some new trend. I know this sounds a bit follow the herd. But no point in your DD getting there and being upset because she is the only one wearing pjs.

Pfft, she's only seven. I'd let her go in her The Hulk outfit if she wanted to.

Yes, I would pack something more 'normal' in case she changed her mind.
Yes, I dislike onesies as adult going-out gear. But she's seven! it's not the same thing at all.

OP, I have a sneaking admiration of kids who Do Their Own Thing :) She's clearly a confident child who knows what she likes - well done, that mother!