FFS!!!!!!
Just back online and was writing big long reply when I stupidly pressed some button and lost it all!!!!
helloclitty
You are certainly entitled to your opinion, but I don't know how you can say "you had absolutely no intentions of doing so. Which is proven in the outcome" (am sorry but don't know how to paraphrase)
I SAID earlier that I was going out, you have no idea what i have done or said in the interim, so I think that was a bit harsh.
I will try and rewrite what I lost. when I read her texts back, it seems I have misread/misunderstood, due to txtspk. She said the "screen wrkd" then conked out. Rightly or wrongly, I read this as the screen was CRACKED, which made me think I must have seen it on the day.
At the time, the only visible damage was to the hinge on the lid, which I thought my Dad could fix. She agreed to give to him. There was no more mention made of it, and as everyone that day had had a few glasses of wine (we were there for a party, think I mentioned that), well, I'm afraid it fell off my radar totally.
And I don't allow children upstairs in my house unsupervised, not even my home. But she was happy for the adults to sit and have a drink while the boys were upstairs, my DC WERE invited, in case anyone thinjks I just brought them, and we only stayed a couple of hours.
Yes, I realise that some of my posts might not have made complete sense, I can't get peace online when my 2 Ds are about, they are 3 and 5 so that is all the time. I was also trying to text her and update when I finally got a reply from her.
her original texts had been, oh don't bother etc. Well, I'm not the kind not to bother, hence why I WAS worried. She can't alwyas text back staright away either.
I was so upset and worried that when I went out, as I had already planned to, I had knots in my stomach and more or less cried the whole way. I am NOT the kind to let my children damage things without trying to make recompense.
I texted her how I was feeling and she couldn't understand why I was crying. I asked if her DS would want vouchers or money, what would she prefer. I had already offered earlier. She said "our friendship means more to me than a stupid DS. But if you really want to get vouchers, then Ds would love vouchers from blah"
And has told me repeatedly that I'm overthinking/overanalysing/worrying/getting stressed over nothing.
I got £50 of the vouchers, wrote to A from my Ds, I'm sorry for breaking your game. love etc xxx
And put them through the door when I got home. She texted me straight away to say "OMG, thats Far too much"
I just said, well.....
She texted back to say how excited her DS was and to thank me and to stop stressing etc. So I tried to. (but here I am, several hours later)
I have tried to do the right thing, the same day that I found it it was actually BROKEN FOR GOOD, if anyone recalls, I didn't know this at the time. which was 2 months ago.
I have also felt really bad about it. (FWIW, if it had been the other way round, my DH and I discussed that we would just chalk it up to experience, and do , in fact , what she has tried to do. ) I am mortifeid to think that this happened and I wasn't aware, we are very good friends and share a lot of confidences.
I know that we are now "good", as far as she was concerned, we were anyway!
I KNOW you can't actually close a thread, I just meant I wanted to thank people for their advice/opinions etc and leave it at that.
Apologies for any confusion, it's now late and i'm tired. I'm not a troll of any sort. i'm actually a nice. thoughtful, generous person who would give anyone the shirt off my back, so to speak. I'd also do more or less anything to help anyone, tricky chalice's thread struck a chord with me cos that's the sort of thing I'd do and have done (traipse up hill and down dale to help others, because we WANT to)
And I don't think I was "fannying around", I was tring to find out the facts from her and how she felt. I will say again, that if she had told me, I'd have sent it back to the manufacturer to see if it could be fixed. In all honesty, it cant't be the first game console to be flung onto carpet, my 3 year old is not THAT strong. Though I do still accept that he shouldn't have done it.
I'd have liked the opportunity to try and right the wrong AT THE TIME. She had her own reasons for not saying, and that's fair enough. But am sure I could have got another/got it fixed without spending what she did.
She did say there were none left of that model and they were being discontinued, but when I checked amazon when I found out today (to get an idea of price), there were LOADS. And plenty of second-hand ones. Turns out she meant there were none left in ARGOS, but my point is, if I'd been told at the time, I could have got it fixed or got another online (am quite renowned for tracking down bargains online)
Maybe he wasn't that bothered, and wanted the upgrade anyway?? I don't know. Doesn't mean I would shirk my responsibility, I'm just saying.
Have just remembered something. When we got home from the party, she texted me to ask if I or my DC had seen some gadget thingy of hers (I don't know what it was, plays music and games, not very into iphones or ipods, stuff like that am afraid)
I quizzed my 2 and for several days after. DS1 is sensible and truthful, he would have told me. He hadn't seen it and neither of them even knew what it was it was, like me. I texted her quite a few times in the following days to see if it had turned up, it hadn't and i don't know now if it has. There WERE other young children there, so it could easily have been lifted/put down by one of them. It's also entirely possible that game boy thingy had already been damaged by someone else, as there was a lot of malarky going on upstairs; lots of boys in one smallish room. lots of excitement and running around the place.
That's probably the reason why I forgot about the game, was focusing on trying to find her gadget. Not drip-feeding, just lack of recall, was 2 months ago.I can hardly remember what I did yesterday.
Anyway, all's well that ends well, it seems. Thanks again, apologies again, and good night x (for someone very tired, I seem to have written War and Peace!)
Just off to join Overthinkers Anonymous.