AIBU stay at home mum or working mum

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That you can't win either way?!

There is no 'win' or 'lose' involved in either, making in a 'win' situation pits the two against each other, when there is no need and it creates a battle where there is not one to create. Both working & SAHM have good and bad days.

To suggest is a win or loose would suggest it is the same for everyone. Each familly has to do what works for them and sod what anyone else thinks.

I guess I'm finding it hard to decide what to do for the best!

There is no win or lose as it's not a competition.

I feel pressure to be a stay at home mum but don't think I can actually do
It

yup, no battles, no competition

do what's right for you

cheeky

Seriously, I am worried about you. You really need to see your support team and talk all this through, you obviously have lots of things worrying you and are very anxious.

What you decide to do will be what is best. And nothing is ever set in stone.

Who is pressurising you?

I agree with Valium...you are wanting some to tell you what to do...we cant!!

You need professional help to enable you to deal with this - we have all told you to do what is best for you but then you post another thread about the same thing.

Seriously, its not a competition, there is no right or wrong, its the decision only you and your family can make.

You have been very ill, and by the number of threads you have posted on the same subject it is obvious you are very anxious about the whole thing.

Talk to your CPN about this, if they can't help they can point you in the right direction.

Do you feel you have bonded well with your baby? It doesn't sound like you have from your posts and this is really worrying and needs to be addressed. Sorry if I have got that wrong. Please seek help x

I don't know - I have a career that I love, and I parent my son when I'm not at work. He's a happy little chap and he's growing up with a fantastic work ethic already, from seeing both his parents go out to work and work in the house. I feel like I win tbh, but I also didn't think I wAs in competition with anyone else :)

I agree with valium

I think there comes a time when you need to give up starting multiple threads and seek some sort of real life discussion with someone who can help you.

Good luck, I hope it goes well whatever you decide.

Agree with valium. OP, you need advice from people who know you well, including the professionals involved in your care. Obviously the suggestions you have had here so far on other threads are not helping you as you are still needing to ask variations of the same question.

I'm not criticising, btw, just pointing out that this probably isn't the best place to get the right advice for YOU. Wishing you well.