I moved up to Cumbria 10 years ago for work. There is only one employer for the kind of job I do here, but at the time I wasn't bothered, I was young and free and wanted to be out on the fells and was hoping to meet me a nice rich farmer!! Anyway i ended up meeting an even nicer chocolate salesman instead, and we're now happily married with two little boys.
All is well apart from my job. I hate it. We went through a restucture 3 years ago which meant that a) I now have to do a lot of teaching which I'm quite phobic about and gets me into a state, and b) I lost hours and we couldn't make ends meet so now I work in a shop a few evenings a week as well. It's all a bit stressful and hanging over our heads is the fact that my company is moving out of the county in 12 months time and I won't have my main income at all.
Have tried for the past three years to find another job and have just about come to terms with giving up my career and doing something completely different but am struggling with low wages up here, my lack of skills in other areas and wanting to fit in around the kids and school. So far only one suitable job has come up and I didn't get it.
I feel really low and hopeless and trapped. Yesterday out of interest I looked at jobs in my profession in other areas and found that there are still lots out there. I could earn good money, and be fulfilled and not have to do the teaching bits that I hate here. However it would mean a move, and my Cumbrian is not up for it. He is rooted. Has never lived anywhere else and never wants to. He says it is better for the children up here, which I guess it is. But i think we would both have better opportunities, that the kids would be fine, and that city life would be amazing, again. I am only talking Leeds, not the other end of the country, but he won't consider it. Am I being unreasonable? Should we just wait it out and see what happens or try to be proactive??