Dh has a family member that lives abroad.
We don't see that much of them as where they live is hard to get to via flights etc and would cost a fortune with 2 young dc.
Saw them last summer at my mils.
Since she moved abroad we have communicated mostly by FB - until I got so tired of her passive aggressive posts that I deleted my account.
We moved house 6 months ago and unfortunately I have been quite Ill since then and had a back op 6 weeks ago.
I missed her sons birthday in feb. I feel awful about it. I never miss things like that but I was in a lot of pain and couldn't walk far so going to the post office wasn't really in the cards. I could have asked dh to do it I guess but just didn't think.
I sent him a card and letter for his 1st holy communion apologising and just chatting and asking for all the news.
The next month she sent a thank you for the card and my son a birthday card and £10.
I didn't have her e mail or phone number so asked me pil for her mob no and texted her a thank you for both.
Didn't hear back but didn't really think anything of it.
Ds2 was really ill and in hospital so tbh I really hadnt given it a second thought!
(ds2 is ok now btw)
Got an e mail yesterday. A very judgy and passive aggressive e mail and I am really upset about it :(
She is annoyed that I cashed the cheque before sending a thank you. I didn't. I sent a text, I didn't know her phone doesn't receive texts from the UK!!
She has made me feel about 2 inches tall.
I e mailed back and explained and that her e mail had upset me and she really took the gloves off!!
I am mercenary and rude apparently.
I e mailed back and told her that I would send the money back as I didn't want gifts that came with conditions attached.
Apparently I am being "silly".
No mention of how Ill I have been. No mention of ds2 and asking of he is ok.
(she is his gm fgs!)
So.
Come on...tell me. I can take it.
Am I silly to be so upset by this? Should I have put the chq away and not cashed it til I had written a thank you letter? I send money/gifts all the time and never relieve a thank you and it really doesn't bother me...is it that important?