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was DH to have posted this?

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poisonouswart · 12/07/2012 08:53

Okay DH has his own construction type business, he has a main competitor locally. This competitor has bad mouthed him to his clients and suppliers over the years but unfortunately none of them are willing to give statements. Competitor has also posted things on FB which are obviously about DH and his business. Competitor even got to the point of sending ME anonymous threatening letters and phone calls.

We did go to the police and our lawyer. Letters were exchanged between lawyers and the police gave warnings but said they couldn't do much else as they weren't interested there was no proof it was them or about us.

so after a quiet period of about a year, due to illness, DH has had to make alternative arrangements with his work. He has other companies who can take on the work although unfortunately some clients have decided to go with this competitor. What can you do?

Said competitor is back to his old tricks - making digs on Facebook, but without naming DH.

DH kind of lost his patience yesterday and wrote on his FB page a dig about this competitor. He asked me what I thought before hand and I told him it needed to be more subtle, but DH made it very direct and very obvious. No names though.

There have been comments posted as replies criticising DH for posting this. I think its 'friends' of said competitor.

I'm worried now that this will lead to more problems for us.

All the comments have been deleted, although my DH has not deleted his post.

So was he BU? Should he remove it? Am I right to feel worried?

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Softlysoftly · 12/07/2012 08:57

Remove it don't sink to their level I would prefer to use someone aloof and professional.

Fb is evil btw and particularly for business needs to be stripped of personal emotion.

valiumredhead · 12/07/2012 08:57

Damn right he should remove it! Good grief, I would suggest getting rid of the FB account altogether and just moving forward.

Paiviaso · 12/07/2012 09:00

No he shouldn't posted it. The competitor obviously is immature or has a screw loose, I'm not sure what your DH hopes to achieve by antagonisng him.

It also makes your claims of harassment less valid, as you are now as bad as them.

Damage is already done, but DH should delete nevertheless.

slartybartfast · 12/07/2012 09:02

not everyone uses facebook.
i would suggest that you and your DH deregister from FB too

paradisechick · 12/07/2012 09:08

How petty!

If you've got a good name locally that speaks for itself.

verytellytubby · 12/07/2012 09:16

Delete ASAP. I wouldn't use a company posting petty messages.

WorraLiberty · 12/07/2012 09:17

I don't think I'd use either company

It all sounds so childish, it's laughable.

Nagoo · 12/07/2012 09:19

It would put me right off using your DH's company.

delete delete delete.

paradisechick · 12/07/2012 09:52

I see this sort of bickering on local selling pages and neither party looks good.

poisonouswart · 12/07/2012 09:56

DH wont remove it. In his words "its done now", "its been seen", "removing it would make me look worse, look scared etc".

I think he's just reached the end of his tether really. Quite a few customers and suppliers are aware of what we've gone through but these people are friends of ours, those who aren't don't know.

DH is also saying he doesn't think they can do anything about it because we have so much evidence against them, screenshots etc.

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Nancy66 · 12/07/2012 09:56

I wouldn't use your husband's company if I was aware of this. Makes him seem petty, unprofessional and, frankly, a bit thick

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 12/07/2012 10:07

And these are grown ups? as in grown men, responsible enough to run businesses? Hmm sssuuuuureeee they are Hmm

ivykaty44 · 12/07/2012 10:12

If I saw this type of thing on fb - I would use another company. Not wanting to get involved in two business spats whatever or who ever started it.

valiumredhead · 12/07/2012 10:44

I seriously think your dh needs to delete his fb account Hmm

Pandemoniaa · 12/07/2012 12:52

Regardless of what has gone before, this is a deeply, deeply unprofessional course of action. I'd go so far as saying it is the quickest way to ensure your DH's company fails. For goodness sake get your DH to delete it before any more damage is done.

SaraBellumHertz · 12/07/2012 13:52

I'd run a mile from any company that behaved like that.

Tell your DH to grow up and delete the post

GinPalace · 12/07/2012 13:56

Well, should this complaint ever make it into a formal process it will seriously undermine your case if it can be shown you participated in similar tactics.

I can understand him being at the end of his tether but joining in will not help at all, as any customers who are loyally avoiding the other guy out of disapproval for the bad mouthing will have no reason to avoid/choose either of them over the other.

Can you take a civil claim for slander?

GinPalace · 12/07/2012 13:57

Certainly delete the post, the other guy will probably take the opportunity to show it to all and sundry to show what a bad guy he is, so he should remove that opportunity even though it will already have been seen by some.

squeakytoy · 12/07/2012 14:07

Unbelievably unprofessional behaviour on the part of both companies.

If I were looking for a contractor, I would avoid both of you like the plague.

As for "its done now".. it can easily be undone by deleting it before any more potential customers are alerted to it.

Pancakeflipper · 12/07/2012 14:10

Close the FB account . It's not losing face. It is being an adult. Then if he needs an FB account have a private family and friends account.

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