To want DH to defend my honour?!

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I know lots of people have worse problems than this but my mind is racing and I can't sleep...

Been with DH for 11 years (married 1) solid relationship, soul mates etc 12 years ago (aged 17) Young free and single, I got off with, and slept with my now DHs best friend (at the time). It happened the once, not particularly memorable, and although DH has always known about it we never discuss it (its not really an issue but we both prefer to leave it in the past)

However DHs ex BF continues to bring it up, and has told each of his girlfriends since...I've tried to take the attitude that it was all so long ago, meaningless and I was young etc but it still gets me down that he thinks it is ok to keep bringing it up.

So AIBU to think its got to the point where something needs to be said... and AIBU to want DH to have a word with his exBF..WWYD and what would you say?

Can't match what LaQueen advises you to tell him - say that and watch him wither...

Why did your DH and is BF fall out? Why aren't they best friends anymore?

Also, was it only his girlfriends he told?

Worra- there was no falling out as such but we/DH distanced us from exBF because,frankly he is not a nice person, and is an ego-driven dick!

He has told his lad friends as well as his girlfriends (I kind of understand telling girlfriends-some couples don't share everything but me and DH know about each others past/exs etc)

LaQueen - yes please! I don't want to give him the satisfaction of knowing he upsets us, but at the same time want to highlight it is only him harping on about it and make him realise he is BU and pathetic!

I agree with SoupDragon

"X, I don't know why you insist on constantly bringing this up. It was once, it was 12 years ago and, quite frankly, it wasn't very memorable."

I like Soupdragons reply, short and to the point, LaQueen is really good. You need to turn this back on him and humiliate him,

"I cant believe you still bring that up it was so awful, its lucky it didnt put me off forever, thank god I have grown up and now know what good sex is, I must be a godess for you to still go on about it" you useless dickless wonder

Loving these replies! Go OP.

If it's any consolation, his friends and girlfriends are probably going to think he's ego-driven and pathetic, too.

I mean, who in their right mind harps on about a one night stand they had over a decade ago, unless they're selling their stories to a tabloid?

One of my ex-boyfriends did this. I hadn't slept with him, wouldn't in a million years and was only 14 at the time. He was trying to impress his mates.

My brother, who was a rugby prop at the time and twice ex-bf's size and weight, caught him in the school toilets, slammed him up against the wall and snarled in his face "Are you calling my sister a slag?!!"

They were talking about that one long after they'd stopped laughing about his fantasy sexual conquest

You may want to add, right after the bit about it not being 'real sex',?oh god, i thought that was your finger ?

then giggle