To get grumpy that husband never asks me about the TV?

[MrsHelsBels74]

He just flicks though the guide & picks what he wants to watch without asking what I think. AIBU to be slightly irritated by this?

Divorcable offence in my house.

Mind, we only really watch tv together during dinner. After ive eaten he can put what he likes on

does he tirn over while you are in the middle of something?

Well, it's obviously completely selfish behaviour.

Is he selfish in other ways?

Id be hopping.
Or does he only watch TV for say 1/2 hour each day,and you can watch what you like the rest of the time?

i mostly potter on the laptop of an evening so dh gets charge of the 'trols.

i sometimes say "oi....i was watching that" but very very rarely and even so he'll always ask "what shall we watch?" and I always say "not bothered!"

Don't you tell him to stop?

He doesn't do it if I'm watching something but if something finished he will just grab the remote & choose what next without asking me.

Although feeling slightly bad as just after I'd posted this he did say 'we don't have to watch this'

Maybe he has rumbled you and say what you were writing on here.

Try and do it back to him and see how he reacts. If that doesnt work kick him out when you want to watch the tv :)

He used to be a lot worse, back when we were dating he'd come over to my flat & quite often I'd be listening to music & he'd just turn the tv on without saying anything so I couldn't hear the music. That is, he did it until one day I erupted at him

I wouldn't mind so much but I always make sure I ask if he's happy to watch my choice.

I don't know if I'd say he was selfish exactly, but he has been brought up to believe that he is most important & his opinion is the one that matters, if that makes sense?

Buy another telly?

He is selfish. Do you both not share the same tastes? Buy another television.

We discuss what we watch together. If you intend to stay living with this bloke then you will have to start being more assertive and telling him that there are 2 of you in the house and unless he wants to live alone you'd like to discuss together what you watch on the TV.
A man can only walk all over you if you lie down.

I sky plus everything I want to watch. takes the hassle out of who watches what when.

Buy the Radio Times on the previous Tuesday and highlight your choices on a variety of coloured felt-tips. Leave it in an obvious placd.

Or you could talk to him, but where's the fun in that?

Eek that would drive me nuts. We tend to like watching similar stuff, or we sky plus stuff and then delete it months later without watching it.

He often watches sport on a Sunday pm when I am cooking, and I have this face until he gets uncomfortable and switches it off.

I am a harridan.

I just made DH watch a documentary on mountaineering

I don't understand this. If I am watching tv and want to change the channel I will

I'm not going to ask DH every time if it would please his majesty or if I was allowed!

He has a mouth to object if it's something he doesnt want to watch if that's the case we find something together.

Most of the time he doesn't care or notice.

Same goes in reverse. If my husband started asking me every time he wanted to watch something or change the channel I would be all

If I say I don't want to watch xxx or yyy it's changed.

No way would I circle a tv guide!

Aaaah Dilys you've just reminded me of the chap on the bus who used to talk to the "sad aliens" and carry a secret weapon in a broken tartenette thermos.

Every Tuesday he'd sit with me on the bus (he liked me) and get outbid red pen, blue pen and green pen and highlight safe shows to watch, ones to let the government know and match of day.

Out his.

I don't understand a world where DP has the remote. He doesn't even know how to use it properly..

tartenette thermos

fond memories

Kayano you wouldn't say 'are you watching this?' or 'this is a bit crap, let's see what's on the other side?'

I can't understand why a person wouldn't consider the other people in the room before changing the channel.

And I can't understand a person who would keep quiet about their when the tv got turned off or over!

DH doesn't do this, but ILs do when they visit and BIL is THE worst offender. He is the most self centred individual I have ever met - honestly, he was shocked that I might be a little bit when he grabbed the remote and turned it over from a documentary I was enjoying to flick through the channels.
And while I'm hijacking the thread, I've told DH that this Christmas I will not be standing for the ILs to watch 3 matches of cricket a day on the TV AND then the next day watch the repeats of two of those matches....

Op said he doesn't actually change what she is watching but when it finishes changes the channel.

Don't see what the big deal is. I can always say 'oh I don't fancy that.' I don't have to wait to be consulted every time!

It isn't really a big deal it's just I would never decide on something for us to watch without asking him if he was ok watching it. We do have wildly differing tastes which is half the problem, he loves anything to do with war, I prefer come dine with me!

What is vaguely ironic is that if our toddler wants to watch something my husband always says 'ask mummy first' when he doesn't do it himself!