My DD is 14 months, she was breastfed at night up until one month ago which ruled out any overnight stays, which was fine with me as I didn't feel I needed an overnight break. Now she is no longer breastfed her GPs (my PILs) are desperate for her to sleep over. I am not keen for the following reasons:
They have just one bedroom and no floor space for travel cot or inflatable bed so she'd have to share their bed.
They smoke, although they wouldn't if DC was there, but their house still stinks of it, sorry to be judgy but I don't like this around children.
I don't actually know PILs well as only met them properly when I was pregnant so it's still a new relationship between us & I feel uncomfortable leaving my child with them as although they're DDs family they are more or less strangers to me at the moment.
DP and PILs are getting impatient with my reluctance to allow overnight visits. I loved staying with my GPs as a child and want my daughter to have the same kind of memories but AIBU to want to allow this in my own time? Possibly when DC is old enough to ask to stay over? My own family live too far away for me to 'test' an overnight stay with them, which is unfortunate as it might have been easier for me due to none of the issues bring present which I mentioned above!