Dilemma not a huge one but its still one to me... I am turning 40 next week and wondered if it would be selfish of me to not have a big party... I have been mulling it over and feel like I would just like to spend it with my daughter sons and granduaghters as they mean the world to me...
The problem being that my family sisters dad etc, will be huffy about me doing this and will probably expect me to organise something free at my house which to me defeats the purpose because i will end up running around and doing all the cooking and cleaning ....
The reason I dont want to invite them is because in the past they have just annoyed me with the way they have behaved at anything I have organised....
My wedding was one they moaned about it and not one of them bought us a gift , and I know thats not the most important thing but I felt a bit hurt given that they wanted to take what was left of my buffet home and wine!
My sister and husband also tried to add on half there bill to ours at my daughters 18th birthday do by pretending they had forgot to pay for a few things at the meal...
Its just stupid niggly things My sister and husband sit bitch and moan about anything I organise especially if they have to pay I always usually try to organise these things at my house and I have had a good few so that they dont have to put there hands in their pockets
but it even gets as petty to the fact my sister and kids will get jealous if I pay more attention to my grandchildren I feel that I cant win no matter what I do....
I think it hurts more because I always make a huge effort to make theirs special....
So do I sit with a stepmum that cant stand me a stepsister that has caused so much trouble in the family and my sister and partner and kids who will just moan no matter what I do......
Should I just face the wrath of having something with my own family and put everyone elses noses out of joint...Bahhhhh families!!!