Aibu to be slightly annoyed with my child's report from nursery?

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Ok, I realise this may be quite pfb and overall not that big of a deal but I've got my 4 year olds report back today and it just feels as though they don't really know him and what level he is actually at.

For eg they have targets to correct pencil grip, and learn how to write his name. - But he already can write his name, and his friends names, and a few other words. They've put he can write the first letter of his name, which was true when he started nursery but he has learned since, so they either haven't noticed or just wrote the report ages ago

For maths target they have put begin to explore practical addition and subtraction. This is a child who is obsessed with numbers, he knew about adding and taking away well before he started nursery. If you give him a number he will tell you all the different methods he can think of about how to make it with different combinations of numbers. and they have put 'uses some number names accurately in play'

They have also put 'is beginning to differentiate between colours' and im thinking ffs he knew this at 1.5 yrs...

Its not a case of being a competitive parent, or i think my child is advanced or genius or anything like that! It's just that the report is not an accurate representation of his actual level.

It seems like they probably just copy and paste the whole thing, or just shove a few generic phrases into the form, so maybe i should just read it, and think hmm okay whatever and move on, but they have said that they invite comments on the reply slip so I don't know whether to write that the report is not accurate, or just leave it.

I feel like it might come across a bit too pfb or pushy to write something, but I do feel the report is not very good...

There are 120 kids in the nursery and his original keyworker teacher is off on maternity, and he has a new one who may be does not know him too well, so may be its just to be expected to get inaccurate reports like this. And he is barely 4, so in a way does it really even matter??

but then putting begin to explore addition and learn to write their name etc, when they already can do it, is not really on is it

So aibu and should I write anything or not?

Do we really need nursery reports? When my son was at nursery all I ever wanted to know was that he socialised well, was happy, well looked after and developing at a fairly "normal" pace. Anything beyond that is pretty useless for their age range.

YANBU at all.

I would be quite annoyed as it is just not accurate. I would have to write a few comments back even if "not important" and he is only 4. Even if the teacher is on maternity leave I think the staff should be expected to have at least a rough idea of what each child is doing, and the report should reflect the true ability and performance a bit more. I would also be at comments like starting to learn his colours

what they have written for all the other areas seems okay, only thing i was surprised about in those was they wrote he's often outside looking at insects with magnifying glass which doesn't sound like him he tends to be more scared and squeamish of insects and animals but maybe he does enjoy doing that at school?!

anyway i think i will just put a small comment that i don't find the report fully accurate and some of the information on it seems to be a bit out of date, and will leave it at that

I commented against all the sections in DD2's nursery report - not negatively, but giving more examples of what she could do, as I thought that was what you were meant to do, until I realised there was a parent comment section at the end They didn't mind at all though and we had a good chat about it, and I think they know her better now for it.

I think given that some has gone to the effort of making a copy of which will go to his reception teacher I think it is appropriate to comment on the fact that you do not see it as a reflection of your son's capabilities. It is not that this is going to impact on his Oxbridge chances(!) more that you want to see your report that his teacher will a least initially rely upon. Many might think reports shouldn't be done on such young children but where they are accuracy is needed.

I'm more worried about the pencil grip comment. Are they trying to force him into a 3 finger grip? a 5 finger grip is perfectly fine for a 4 year old and a necessary stage of development!

had the same sort of thing from someone whos report dictated what help/school placement our child with suspected autism and severe speech delay. was in a meeting with her and his teacher and two speech language people telling her he is completely different to what she observed but wouldnt budge on her crappy report.

i wanted to say he might not understand your questions because of your really thick french accent i had trouble understanding. petty but it really grates

yabu.
why on earth are reports being written for 4 year olds and why do they matter?

oh minimisschief that must be really frustrating! hope you do manage to get the help he needs in school sorted out

i have another younger ds with speech delay and possible sn too and i actually was thinking to myself if the schools can not even get a simple nursery class report done accurately it does not really bode well for the future of having to rely on them to understand and meet all the various needs of individual dc throughout school

Dd's nursery handed out questionnaires recently asking about what the Dc do do at home. It does mention about Dc being different at home than school and they would like our input. It asked questions about adding and taking away small amounts, counting, writing etc........I thought it was really good TBH although not sure how the info will be used as the school year is nearly over, maybe it will be somehow included on the report (wow...sounds wrong for 4 yr olds to have reports doesn't it ). My Ds never did anything in nursery that he could at home, he was far too busy playing which was fine by me .

I don't think it would hurt if you put a message on the reply form of what he does at home. At the end of the day if they don't witness something how can they comment?. You could even suggest what my Dd's nursery has done?

They can only assess what they have seen him do at nursery.

If you are really bothered, why no ask if you can add your own observations of what he does at home to the report?

This happened a year ago, people! Bit too late to be adding comments to a reply form.