to ask what's soooo wrong with netmums?

[sassy34264]

noticed a lot of derogatory remarks about them.
what have they done?

@mrsd

Well said. There are some horrible posts on there...

One I remember was a mum whose baby had 9 fractured bones-SS removed the child.
The paediatricians established that the fractures were non-accidental in nature and had investigated for OI (brittle bone disease)-the baby did not have this disease.
All of sudden she was given (((hugs)) hun and all the posters said the doctors were wrong, baby must have brittle bones.
I pointed out as a former doctor who had worked in paeds this is a diagnosis doctors do not get wrong-the type of fractures in abuse are very different from accidental ones. Also when it comes to abuse it is a series of consultant paeds and radiologists who make the diagnosis-not just one doc who may make an error.
I explained that although the mum is most likely innocent, someone violent is in contact with the child.
I was flamed down as unsupportive by all the other mums. When I pointed out I was a NON PRACTICING doc, all my posts were deleted as the mods said I was trying to give a professional opinion-which I wasn't.
No matter what disgusting remarks are posted we are all expected to give ((((hugs))) hun to you and bubkins. Makes me want to scream-as for the spelling-don't even go there....I make a few typos but some posts appear to have been written by Stevie Wonder with boxing gloves on.

mrsd

I complained about one woman who said she knew someone with bipolar who she described as a "nutter". nm found this acceptable. I dont

mrsd

I complained about one woman who said she knew someone with bipolar who she described as a "nutter". nm found this acceptable. I dont

My 'campaign' was sparked by a mother on the SN boards calling children with LDs the R word. It was left there. She was annoyed because she thought children with LDs shouldn't be near her kid with SNs.

I thinking remember the thread you mention. There are a lot of CP related posts and they always get the same crap responses. I emailed NMHQ several times and suggested they do something with family rights group to improve te quality of response.

Lo an behold they do that now but they never acknowledged my emails. Cheeky gits.
People still argue with the FRG replies though.
I hate all that 'fight for your bubba, they can't take him' stuff even when the adoption order has been made!
It's so sad to see.

using the r word with ld kids is disgraceful

I have been tempted to sarcastically post a thread titled "I wish my son was dead" to see how many imbeciles send me hugs.

turbo I remember the thread about the child with brittle bones and couldn't believe the attitudes towards anyone trying to offer a sensible viewpoint . It just seemed to be 'doctors are always wrong hun, you fight them' - I was .

There was a thread this week about male nursery staff and many people seemed to think it's ok to not trust a man who wants to work with kids. If people have these attitudes then ok, but it needs to be balanced with other posters calling them fuckwits!

Let's just be honest and say we think we're cleverer than NMs...

What came first, Mumsnet or Netmums?

@english well said
@stillfeel I keep using NM like some sort of weird compulsion. I do not regard myself as an idiot academically, but I sure am a prat keep going to a site that makes my blood boil!
I wish I could get the willpower to keep away...what the hell is wrong with me?

Took me years to break free....
Years..

I only heard about it through being here. Mumsnet is far better at getting a good google position.

I went over once but people were calling themselves mummies more often than they do here. Otherwise there didn't seem to be much difference between the two

Fantastic fun! Just been over there to see what all the fuss is about. Read a very entertaining thread about how many tattoos is too many. One poster says her MIL has 16 . Thread here if you want to be smug and judgemental entertained.

embarrassed to say I have a tattoo...

EnglishGirlApproximately I was on that thread too and actually thought it went a completely different way. Most people told the OP to catch herself on and she came back to say that she's visited the nursery and felt like a bit of a dick for worrying. Maybe it all went a bit aaggh after that?

wiggles the op knew she was being irrational but a couple of other people chipped in saying it was ok to think like that. One said that the men she knew thought there was something odd about male nursery staff, others were saying it was an invasion of the dd's privacy for a man to change a nappy.

I had a little peek at it earlier and shit I was surprised at how naff it was...coffee lounge chat room or something... shiver...aghhhh...spooky

Yes, I know and other posters told them to stop being a dick or a d**k , in NM speak.

was "better safe then sorry" used in the nursery nurse thread too?

hate that! its used as an excuse to NAME and accuse people in the community on my local one and that's completely fine with NM - ridiculous things like Oh I went into X cafe with DD and the man in there was really wierd, kept smiling at her, anyone else get a wierd feeling about him" then loads of "better safe then sorry" and later "no smoke without fire" replies and the poor man's reputation and business is suddenly under threat and NM isn't slightly bothered!

No, but "you wouldn't have this issue if you looked after your child yourself" was

helpful

Would Martha Stewart be a NM lady rather than MNer?

There was a thread this week about male nursery staff and many people seemed to think it's ok to not trust a man who wants to work with kids.

Things like this really get my goat. Well, they would, but I had to give it to someone on benefits. Along with my big screen telly.

Dammit. Posted too soon. Have looked at NM, but it's too loud. My poor eyes.

I just went on NM and saw one of those animated yellow thinngs fuck another animated yellow thing in the head.

Twas full-on porn

lol @august

I have just read a thread called "chickenpox parties". If some poor child comes down with CP, do you deliberately take your child round so they catch it early in life as this is supposed to be better-whatever that fucking means.

I am shocked that there are mums on there who are that bloody thick they would do this....where are social services when you need them?