or is my husband? sex related..

[merryplopppins]

Thought that might get your attention!
It seems that, after a long conversation last night,(post coital) that my husband is finding our sex life boring and unimaginative. He has a desire for a bit more excitement. Nothing really out there, just a bit more foreplay and not always the same positions. Maybe a bit more frequency too as we only manage about once a week at best.
I have a DD of 4 and DS of 11 months, and maybe predictably my sex drive has taken a bit of a beating. The trouble is i find i don't really have much desire or energy for anything other than quick sex (you know, just the things you know will get results quickly then just go to sleep.)
Its terribly sad that i feel like this as i used to be very highly sexed and up for most things in the bedroom. I find it hard to fake my interest in sex when to be truthful i have very little interest and really just can't be arsed with the whole thing.
Maybe should have posted this in relationships but wanted some responses to see if this is a common problem (i suspect it is!)

I think we're all like that when tired, with youngsters or not. Great idea to go up early and good that you stick to it (and not the box)

OP is it about timing? My DP is quite 'traditional' about having sex at night, in bed, but I generally feel more like it late afternoon. Plays havoc at work, I can tell ya! But are you too tired because it's last thing at night? What about a babysitter and trying some alone time on a weekend at 4 or 5pm?

Are you still bfing?I have read lots of places that the hormones in bfing can make you less interested in sex,it makes sense really,less chance of a rival for the baby you are feeding!

I really think once a week is ok!We have been a couple of months before.i think after dd1 who was dc 3,we went about 4 months,i just had no interest.

Ask him what he means.What does he want?Try to be honest with each other.