in being annoyed about this?

[yummymummy84]

DD1 (aged 5) went to friends house yesterday and when I picked her up the mum told me she had found them in her bedroom with the door closed lied on the bed and kissing on the lips.

When confronted they said they were playing boyfriends and girlfriends. I spoke to DD and told her she shouldn't be kissing people on the lips and that was that done with. She said it's like when they play mummys and babies.

The mum is still talking about this to other mums at school (who I am friends with and who tell me about it) saying how it has caused problems for her at home and how this is all due to my DD!

I am fuming!! They are kids for gods sake they don't see anything sexual in it! They have also both been spoken to. This has never happened before with any of their friends. AIBU??

Sounds like an overreaction from the other mum, YANBU.

Oh and friend is also a girl

YANBU a total over reaction on the Mum's part.

In what way is it causing her problems at home?

Hopefully the rest of the parents aren't as stupid and will remind her that it's children being children.

YANBU. The mum should not be broad casting the issue, especially laying the blame at your DD's feet.
5 year olds do things like that all the time, a brief explanation to your child is sufficient if you feel it is an issue. I personally don't see a huge issue in it, I kiss DC on the lips, they probably see it as totally normal.

The other mum is over-reacting, but maybe she has things in her past which make this a scary topic for her? Or maybe she's just an arse . But I doubt the other mums she's talking to will think anything of it - 5yos kiss each other, and do a fair bit of exploring, its normal and I'd expect most mothers to just file it as "she's over-reacting".

YANBU. I agree with previous posters: overreaction from the other mum.

Oh for gods sake! Adults are the problem by intrepreting everything children do like this as sexual! Its not sexual, doesnt mean they are going to be lesbians, sexual deviants, sexually promiscuous when they grow up. It just means they are copying what they see going on around them. Its like children breast-feeding dolls, or imitating babies. She is being a twat, your DD and hers for that matter have done nothing wrong!

Total overreaction from other mum. Why keep bringing it up?

I would imagine the other mums think she is dull for going on and on about it.

What puds said. I was wondering if her behaviour betrays her anxieties about sexuality.

Why in God's name is she telling other mothers about this? And what problems could this possibly have caused at home for her?

I would have a quiet chat with the other mum, explaining that any game the girls were playing was 50/50 responsibility of each child (presuming neither was presurised into anything) so can she please stop saying that this was abnormal or due to your DD? Say that you feel it is just children exploring and playing and that you don't expect to hear anything more about it from other mothers at school.

YANBU, total over reaction for her to discuss it widely and impart blame on one child over another. Blame for what? It was a role play game that they have been told not to play.

I 'snogged' my sister once! Had no clue what I was doing, far too young to have any idea it was significant in any way, was just acting and it meant nothing at all. I won't be doing it now or again!

what FireoverBabylon said!

role playing games is perfectly natural...the other mother is a freak!!

just chat about it jokingly with other parents...laugh it off and ignore the silly woman...

I can't imagine it could cause any further problems at home????...of course it could be this mother making mountains out of nothing....I feel sorry for her child if thats the case....how ridiculous!!!

Thanks guys i feel much better knowing you agree!