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To wonder how I'm meant to keep going?

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worriedwretch · 09/07/2012 11:13

I'm 35 weeks PG with Dc 3

I'm now on leave from work til mat leave kicks in - went on AL last Friday so this is my first day "off"

Dc2 is 18montha
Dc1 is 5 (at school)

I'm also running my own business from home.

Plus building work and renovations to get house ready to rent out in Septenber when we move to a different rented property (due to lots of reasons we have decided that this house is no longer our home and don't want to stay here) because we were majorly fucked over by some people we thought we could trust

All the baby stuff is packed away in parents loft - I've got some sanitary towels and a packet of newborn nappies and a new car seat. That's it. No Moses basket sorted yet and dc2 is still in cot (and wil be till we move)

We have to decorate this whole house before baby comes - I have to sort the garden, etc and pack to move.

I'm home all day with dc

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worriedwretch · 09/07/2012 11:15

Posted too soon.

I'm home all day with dc2 I'm exhausted. DP keeps moaning hes tired and I feel like just going to bed and gettin up next January.

AIBU to think this is just TOO much ATM

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squeakytoy · 09/07/2012 11:15

Well you dont HAVE to get the whole house decorated before the baby arrives.

It will be much easier to decorate once you have packed a lot of the stuff.

Make a list, and prioritise things, then delegate stuff out.

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worriedwretch · 09/07/2012 11:20

DP wants it all done NOW before we move as we haven't got a fixed moving date yet & it could be in the 2/3 weeks after baby is born. However I think it's pointless movin everything around and cleaning to decorate only to have dc2 draw on the wall straight after and then move it all back again and then pack to move potentially scuffing paint work when moving out

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eurochick · 09/07/2012 11:21

Why are you decorating to move out? Confused

valiumredhead · 09/07/2012 11:30

Hide the pens/crayons from dc2 for starters, kids don't have to draw on walls. Put them up on a high shelf and only let them cloud when they are sitting at the table, no walking around with them.

Why do you have to sort out the garden? It's not very realistic is it? Can DP do it or can you get someone t come in for a few hours?

bejeezus · 09/07/2012 11:34

Why not postpone moving, if it all feels like too much?

If moving is more important, then you are going to have to suck it to and get on with it aren't you?

I wouldn't be moving at this stage

Pandemoniaa · 09/07/2012 11:34

I think if your DP is so insistent on all this work being done now then he needs to get stuck into it, doesn't he? I'm not surprised that you are tired since it sounds are if you are trying to cram far too much into far too short a time. Would it help to make a list and prioritise the things that need doing and who needs to do them? This could include "get someone in".

PS. It is not compulsory for children to draw on walls. Just don't allow it!

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worriedwretch · 09/07/2012 11:51

Re dc2 drawing on walls - I was being sort of flippant, but if she finds a pen / pencil mascara wand she will doodle on EVERYTHING

cant post pone moving, due to finances, cant stay here either - cant ask any one to help with DC as MIL is completely not suitable and everyone else is too busy

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bejeezus · 09/07/2012 12:06

You said, you decided that house was no longer your home, and so you are moving??

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worriedwretch · 09/07/2012 12:17

Yes and now financially, we have had to move things around in order to move as we were let down. Now we have little choice but to move. This wasnt the plan - but now it has to happen.

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bejeezus · 09/07/2012 12:22

I would find a nursery place/ child minder for your toddler and crack on

Where is your dp? Is he working? Can he take some annual leave and just get the job finished?

And pay some people

I agree you need ti get it done ASAP, so you are clear headed/house to enjoy new baby ad best you can

FallenCaryatid · 09/07/2012 12:23

Have a lovely, sexist retrograde division of labour.
You concentrate on the baby, the toddler and the schoolchild, and get some of the stuff in the loft brought to you so you can manage the first 6 weeks.
He gets to organise or do the decorating and renovations.
You should be supporting each other, looking for the solutions together. he can be knackered and you can recognise that, but he can still hold a paint roller.

ohmysilverballs · 09/07/2012 12:24

Well you can only do what you can do, you need to literally plan what you can do per day and what he can do and get it sorted as it won't do itself and wandering around in denial won't get you anywhere but will make you more stressed. Would about help with looking after your toddler, creche / childminder / friend / relative for short term?

I have a friend who moved her entire family to another country whilst heavily pg with a toddler running around her feet. You / OH could decorate evenings? Put majority of stuff in short term storage? Get a pram that can also use a carry cot for baby and then baby can sleep in that? Or a travel cot for now?

bejeezus · 09/07/2012 12:31

Yrs what silverballs said

write down a plan of what you will do each day (be realistic) Then you can see where you are....

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worriedwretch · 09/07/2012 12:34

Ive just wirtten a plan for each weekend between now and me being 39 weeks

DP better get ready to roll his office boy sleeves up

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FallenCaryatid · 09/07/2012 12:46

Office boy? He'll need the physical work out that decorating provides in order to spend hours walking around with a whingy baby. It's for his own good then.

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