I should post this in 'bloody hell your husband is BVFU'

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I know Ianbu

Husband offers to help in night then promptly drinks three glasses of red wine and two whiskies. (Did also cook tea and did housework out of guilt think).

He falls asleep from 11 and pretty much sleeps through apart from getting up and giving baby to me about twice (me recovering from birth 8 days ago) and changing nappy once whereupon he says, "you'll have to let me have some sleep or I'll be no use tomorrow."

When I pointed out he had slept pretty much straight through he got annoyed, denied it and went straight back to sleep. I'm fuming but if I say anything it ll be wrong and he'll say he's stressed. I think I want to punch him! Granted his dad is in hospital but he hasn't even seen him. I've been in hospital with the baby since she was born and had about three hours worth of naps roughly every 24 hours. I really don't want a who is more tired competition but he is being a knob!!

If it was a competition - you would win the exhaustion prize! Having an 8 day old baby is hard going sleep wise. I was quite lucky as my DH would pass baby to me at night and then later wind him for half an hour after BFing each time. We sort of muddled through together while he was on paternity leave and I was in birth recovery.

I'd continue to wake him if you need him and just explain that he has paternity leave to support you. Can he have baby for a few hours tomorrow so you can sleep?

Yeah he will. My problem is letting go of housework stuff to actually relax. I think he sensed my mumsnet rant cos he just snapped to attention and offered to take baby downstairs :)