I didn't explain myself very well in the start of this thread. I'll start again....
My DD has had headlice a few times since starting school, its not a problem to me, i quite happily sit there and de-bug her. I don't have anything against them, as lots of you have said, they are just that, headlice, nothing terrible (which i know!!) My daughter like many other children i am sure, doesn't like having them, likes even less to sit there whilst i get rid of them for her. I regularly check her hair, as i know being at school, she is bound to catch them (which as i've said, she does) There are children at her school, who's parents don't treat their child when they have them (i have looked after them in the nursery i worked at - one parent actually shaved her DD's hair rather than treating!!) The setting i work at now, we have children who don't get treated too, no matter how many times we mention to the parents, they just shrug it off, their children are really suffering as they have loads and i mean LOADS! Its for this reason that i was thinking of stopping her playing with her for a bit, as i know if you treat them as soon as you find them, you can soon get rid of them, but these children where i work, they have loads and i know that their parents don't treat them, you can also see that they are not treated as there are so many in their hair. I mean you can actually see them without getting close, this is what this little girls hair is like. So even though some of you are saying that she may have been treated, i can see that she hasn't, the amount in her hair wasn't something that has just built up over a week or so.
Also i'd like to point out to some of you who have said that my DD probably had them for a while prior to playing with her, she didn't. When i checked her head, she had 8 eggs, tonight i checked again and only 1 egg, plus no live ones (will be checking each night for a couple of nights) if she had of had them for a while, she would have had quite a few live ones, plus lots more eggs as they reproduce extremly quickly. I'm not being defensive, well not trying to be, but i wanted to just add that bit.
So anyway, the reason i was debating stopping them playing is because i think that it would be a daily thing, my DD getting headlice from her DD and that would then mean my DD having to then sit there each night whilst i go through her hair before bed. I wont be stopping them playing with each other, i've read and taken in what you've all said (although may not seem it by this post lol)
The reason i never told her mother........up until last week, me and her weren't on good terms, since she moved in (6years ago) we've literally said maybe 20 words to each other. The reason being.........she has a DD who is the same age as my DD and she also has 2 younger children, we live in a flat, we are above her. When my DD plays, and its been as simple as walking from one end of the room to the other, she's banging on the ceiling in her flat. This hasn't happened for a while as in the end i went down there and asked her why she was doing that, she said she didn't want to be here, wasn't happy etc, no actual reason for banging on the ceiling. This became quite a problem between us and it just ended up being 'hello' as we passed each other. Then last week i was outside with my DD and her DD came over and they played, her mother came over and we talked. She explained the reason behind the banging etc and we are sort of on talking terms. So the reason i never said anything is because my DD has just found a friend nearby and i didn't want to ruin that (yes i know i was thinking of stopping them playing - not anymore) I dont' know this women well enough to know how she would have dealt with me saying anything. We have told some parents where i work and they get really defensive, aren't happy to be told that their child has headlice.
When she'd gone down to her own flat, i did regret not saying anything, but haven't seen her since and didn't want to knock on her door to tell her.
Don't know if any of that makes me sound like a better person, as i know i probably sounded like a snob or at least not a very nice person, sorry :/