i shouldnt have to do it on my own!

[lilybeansmummy]

my dd this past week has been very unsettled, waking up 2-3 times a night! because i have always been the one to put her to sleep, get up with her, pretty much do everything with her she only wants me!i am sooooo exhausted, i cant remember the last time i got a lie in yet her daddy just lies on and expects me to sort our dd and our dog (that he had to get!!) while he lies in bed scratching his ass! he doesnt even attempt to put her to bed, get up with her etc anymore! yet he doesnt understand when i get pissed off at him! i work full time also, clean the house and look after her pretty much by myself! AIBU to think all these things shud be shared? or atleast if he doesnt help with dd to atleast help with the house work?? i just feel i never have a minute for me!

He's a lazy, useless waste of oxygen.

Tell him to fuck off.

He's a shit dad, a shit partner, a shit man.

Your life will be immeasurably improved when you get rid of him.

He should take on 50% of housework/childcare if you both work full time.

I had this discussion with dh before I had kids. He does bedtime, I do night feeds.

We share all jobs.

He has not twigged that she sleeps through yet though and he actually ATM does more than me. I have a how petty speech prepared for when he cottons on

Op yanbu and need to sit down with him and go out one night etc

Clearly YANBU

Talk to your dp & tell him all of this.
Get a cleaner once a week, its only £20. or so

Resentment like this can only get worse if you don't share it with him

:)

yanbu, dh never done night feed ect, but he does bedtimes, does housework and helps me with my jobs if needs to be.

Give him a 'choice' - "Do you want to put DCto bed or Hoover round?"
"do you want to start the tea or bath DC?"
"do you want to stay married or FUCK OFF?!"
You get the gist!

YANBU to want some help. There is not a 50/50 split in my house for sure so I know how you feel.
Could you not suggest you have a lay in on one day at the weekend? That's what I did after 9 & a half months. DP was ok with the suggestion & he now gets DD up & fed on a Sunday & that was a good starting point.
I think you need to talk with him & say how tired you are & that you would appreciate the help. Are you close to his family? Maybe they could mention something up him if that's an option?