to get annoyed by this?

[headfairy]

Our nanny brings her dd to work with her.. she's 2.6, the same age as our dd. They've both been potty trained a few weeks now, both doing well, but like all children this age they both have the occasional accident. Our nanny never ever comes to work with a spare set of clothes for her dd, so pretty much every day she leaves behind a dirty wet set of her dd's clothes and takes her dd home wearing some of my dd's clothes. Now being a lovely person I wash and iron her dd's clothes (and she does the same to our to be fair) and I never ask her to do any of our laundry, even the kids... but I'm getting increasingly annoyed at our dd's clothes being taken home. Sometimes it's for a few days, or even a week or two. Tonight she's gone home wearing dd's favourite tee shirt and some leggings I specifically bought to go with a particular outfit, and they're on holiday now for three weeks.

AIBU to think if you know it's your last day at work for a while it's probably not on to take your dd home wearing someone else's clothes? Never mind that it's her favourite Charlie and Lola top?

You should have spoken to her about this a long time ago.

Either she's a muppet or she's trying it on. Don't do her washing for her. Get her to take the dirty clothes home. Ask her to bring a change of clothes for her DD. If she "forgets" then start phoning her before she comes to work to remind her. You're not running a clothes library, or a laundry; you're her employer.

Maybe you could ask her to bring a spare set of her DD's clothes and leave them at yours (if you/she don't mind washing the wet set). That way she'll always have a spare set at yours that is hers and wouldn't have to borrow your dds

Huffles has it. If you are washing her stuff anyway, why not just ask if you can keep the washed stuff at yours and that can be the spare?

I know, I should have tackled it earlier. I'm a fool. the thing is that I'm very concious of the fact that we are paying her at the lower end of the scale for the area... so I probably over compensate in being generous in other non financial ways. We let her take as much leave as she wants, which she's brilliant about and never abuses.

But I think she's starting to take the mickey a bit too much. She does far too much personal shopping when she's working for me, she has never been terribly good at tidying up at the end of the day, and her dd is very very destructive in our house (I've seen her breaking toys, it's not just my ds telling tales).

Huffles I think that's a really good solution. It never struck me until now how ridiculous it is me handing over a set of clean clothes to her and her handing me back a set... I'll just keep her dd's clothes at our house from now on and tell her that's why they're there.

I would get a new nanny. Taking your child's clothes, breaking your child's toys, making you do her laundry! She's taking the piss tbf.

Party its not easy with what we can afford to find someone else.

and to be fair to her, the kids do love her. Her dd and mine are best friends. My ds is very happy with her. It's just that it's a bit like having a teenaged au pair working for us rather than having a 30 year old nanny.

Why does she leave her DD's wet clothes behind - that's the first thing I'd mention 'don't forget to take the wet clothes with you, or they'll be really stinky by tomorrow' as she heads for the door. And once you've got her attention I'd say 'I think it would be a good idea if you kept a spare set of clothes for your DD at the house until she's grown out of accidents'.

OR failing all that find some spare clothes you don't mind her borrowing and keep them in a bag ready to produce if the DD has an accident and she doesn't have spares with her. Don't allow her to rifle through your DD's wardrobe, and choose whatever she fancies.

Kurri I'm never there when she goes home (or at least, not usually) as I work until late in the evenings. I think she puts her dd's stuff in the laundry as soon as it happens as dh doesn't see her do it, so it must happen earlier in the day. I only discover it when I put a wash on.

I'll try both suggestions of keeping some of her dd's clothes as spares at our house and having some cheap stuff to hand too. I'm not too optimistic, because she's not got a great track record on this sort of thing. I even have a nappy bag ready packed for her every morning with a spare set of dd's clothes, some wipes, travel potty and liners and nappy bags in - she never takes it despite me saying it's her to use.