..to think this is hypocritical?

[earwig1]

There are a couple of children in our lovely primary school who are going to private schools next year for Y5. While this is obviously a personal choice that I don't wish to judge, their parents happen to be prominent members of the parents association, one of them is the Head...they will still have younger children in the school and will probably continue to run all the charity events. The school has a lovely social mix and children generally progress very well. I can't help being irritated and finding it very smug, as they are pulling out kids who are doing very well there, just because they can afford it. It is their right, of course, but is it compatible with their prominent role in the school?

YABU

Their kids, their money, their choice.

I stated that... but is it compatible with their prominent role in the school?

Completely confused as to what on earth they have done wrong....apart from help to raise money for everyones kids by being active on the parents assoc and then make a choice for their kids.....are they embezzling the funds do you think??!

Yes, surely it is. They have children at the school.

If they didn't have children at the school, then maybe. But they do.

They are still parents of children at the school aren't they, so why should it?

So they are good heasd of the PTA? they raise money for the school? Whats the problem??

I can see why you are irritated...but the solution would be to become a formidable force in the PTA yourself. Are you willing to do that? It is a bit naff for a school's head to remove their child and go private...doesn't exactly inspire confidence even if it is entirely within their rights to do so.

Do you volunteer with the PTA OP?

Less pupils = more teaching time for your child

They still make money for the school

Win win

As someone who feels that private education isn't really fair, but i daresay i would send my child to a private school if i could afford it and felt it was the best school for my child (i dont think that is always the case). I still think YABU, there will be many personal reaosns for their choice, it is none of your business.

Like others have said, are you active in the PTA?

Lots of people choose to send their child to private from about P6/Y5ish. It's usually what they plan for their children.

It's their choice but the fact that they still support the school by fundraising is a good thing is it not?

Well year 5 is a big year for children here as they move from lower school up to middle school, which is like a mini secondary school. It's far more rigid. But mine have all thrived.

Why ate they moving at year 5?

In answer to your questions I've done bits and pieces, but I work pretty much FT, they are SAHMs

Are you serious Earwig? For gods sake, the PTA is a volunteer organisation that people give up their spare time to in order to help the children. When you join the PTA you're not being elected to a paid role where you're accountable for your constituents like a politician.

If you tell me that you pitch in, and do heaps of stuff in the PTA and/or at the school to help the kids then yes you can judge these people I guess.

But otherwise you're being totally unreasonable. And way out of order.

YABU.

They may be supportive of the primary school but may want to avoid the secondary. It may be in the children's best interests to move them early, eg to get a place or to prepare for CE.

The head teacher may like the ethos and curriculum of the independent school, eg games every day, science in labs, MFL with subject specialists, music opportunities, but be powerless to replicate this in her own school.

In which case YAdefinatelyBVU.

Oh another one that doesn't do fuck all for the PTA but whinges about what is done 0 they are a common breed at my DDs school too. All full of what they feel should be done but "busy" when it domes to the crunch. And what does it matter if they are SAHMs or WOHMs? Most PTA stuff is done at the weekend - unless you want to put your money time where your mouth is and step up, id be winding your neck in.

apologies for my grammar and spelling

YABU, I don't see what their voluntary work has to do with anything?

YANBU.

Could it be that they love the school but they want their children to be prepared for the 11+ or a common entrance exam, and your school won't do that?

But you are judging, so why say you don't wish to judge?

There choice to privately educate

Your choice to state educate

Why would someone else's choice irritate you?

"id be winding your neck in"? nice...