To think that leggings and a t shirt do not an outfit make?

[TheSpokenNerd]

My DH sometimes gets our DD2 ready for nursery and allows her to choose her clothing...fine...I do too sometimes...BUT she's 4 and her only choice is always the same.

Leggings and a t shirt.

I don't mind if it's a long t shirt but she puts her in ones that skim the waistband of the leggings which to my mind looks like an unfinished outfit.

I think leggings look ok with a LONG line tunic top, a dress or a skirt (at a push) and if they MUST be worn with a t shirt then it should be a long one.

H can't see my point. I think it looks like pyjamas! ANd ungainly too somehow.

He says she can wear whatever she is comfy in...I agree...but also think we need to make the outfits into something half respectable and the things he's putting on her aren't!

I know what you mean, I think I explained to dd that leggings were with long t shirts and trousers with short ones. They took at leasr one picture of her every day she was at nursery for her EYFS book (which I treasure as its full of lively quotes of cute things she said and fun stuff she did) so I did have a minimum standard for nursery clothes. At home she can wear whatever she wants!

Dont let her choose or dont buy her leggings and short t shirts as they ae obviously a fashion fail

For my DD, her posh Nursery/pre-prep had a uniform of Polo shirt (plus sweat shirt when cold) and leggins for girls, sweat pants for boys. If it is good enough for them then its good enough for me.

She is 4! This is the age you should do all the experimentation with clothes so you realise what looks silly. One of my DDs would be wearing Princess dressing up dresses to go to Sainsburys at this age.

Now if we go somewhere formal I might steer their choice of clothes, but otherwise please let her choose.

I think its fine on a child, but can't stand it on an adult woman. Too much opportunity for camel toe, you can see thongs, cellulite etc through some leggings, and I don't need to see the complete silhouette of a womans arse cheeks thanks!

I'd put a pair of shorts over the top of the leggings.

as to the comment as to who cares what a 4 year old wears. That's a little callous. My 4yo cares very much!!!

DD is 4 and also LOVES leggings & tshirt also, but will usually wear leggings/shorts/tshirt or leggings/skirt/tshirt. I buys shorts with pockets (as leggings don't have pockets) and sell it to her that way.

Also it means if the day is very changeable (as it has been lately) she can take the leggings off and just wear the shorts & tshirt.

remember to check pockets in shorts before putting them in the wash

But why should leggings be with long t shirts and trousers with short ones? It's a bit arbitrary

Adults, yes, nobody should have to look at wobbling buttocks poured into tight lycra.

Little girls - not really any different to wearing trousers. They have a completely different body shape to women, and shouldn't have to abide by fashion rules which are solely based on what is appropriate on a grown woman!

TBH I think a long top with leggings on a 4 year old would look a bit grown up iyswim like a mini adult outfit, my dds wore leggings and jumpers leggings and t shirts they really did look ok in them , why would you put shorts over leggings ?

Shorts over leggings is a funky look. The structure of the shorts avoids camel toe undue exposure, and it is another layer to add interest.

I don't like to see the obvious shape of a nappies in leggings, I have to say.

very practical outfit leggings and t shirt, you can always dress it up with a skirt or dress over the top.

OH i see its the younger version of shorts over thick tights my DDS were wearing last year i get you now

why should leggings be with long t shirts and trousers with shorts?

well like OP said, it is incomplete outfit, like going out in a tshirt and tights, there isnt really a difference imo.

Yes I notice when other kids wear it, and it is usually in my experience the kids of mums who wear leggings and short tops too.

I wouldnt let my kids wear leggings and short tops, neither would they want to, when they choose their own clothes, my 3 year old and 5 year old DSs often choose their own clothes and this has never come up.

You can see all of her bottom and her knicker line in leggings and a short t shirt!

I KNOW she's not got a woman's body yet but it still looks like a badly put together outfit and similar to letting her wear tights and a top....it's awkward.

mrsJay How can a long tunic top look too adult?? DC have been wearing long smock type tops forever! DD has one with a peter pan collar for instance and another with a nice high yoke...very classic and childlike

I think that kind of outfit is ideal for things like soft play to be honest, they can run around easily and get down the slide without bare legs etc 'sticking' so I do sometimes dress DD1 in this combo (plus she has a great big bum that looks so cute in them! )

Adults are a different story though. Great big adult bums (such as my own!) are not cute!

And I wouldn't send hr out with her pants on show...it's her little dignity on display and she is aware that that area is private. I'm not at all prissy or prudish....but come on...her tummy gets exposed too and that just looks uncomfortable and chilly.

Zebra...well for soft play I just put her in jogging pants and a t shirt...that's fne...and works well. But leggings are tight...why have them in those unless they are substituting tights? Leggings aren't meant to be worn as trousers.

Four year olds should not be concerned about VPL or knicker flashing.

Well no they shouldn't fliss...but I am! It's not a sexual thing...it just looks inelegant.

To be honest I've found jogging pants a little hard to find in the shops (although I suppose I could look in the boys section) and being really honest, leggings are cheap! Usually about £2 a pair.

As I say it's not an outfit I dress her in often, more because it's never really warm enough up north! But I don't really find a problem with it so I'm happy to agree to disagree!

But leggings are meant to be worn as trousers.

Well I'll support Nerd here. I don't like leggings with short tops at any age and very heavily discouraged my daughter wearing that combo. She's 7 now and I would flat out veto it. I don't see leggings as a substitute for trousers - they need something long over the top. We tend to use leggings instead of tights.

YANBU OP. I hear you, and I agree with you. None of mine dress like that, but it has never come up as an issue either. See, even at a young age they seem to know the rules of complete dress .

Four year olds and elegance aren't things I'd ever connect with each other though.

I put my daughter in leggings and t-shirt/long sleeve top every day.
Her nappy is clearly visible

Gosh I hope the childminder doesn't JUDGE me!

She is 4.

Who cares?

And you say in your OP that your DH lets your child choose her outfit and "fine" but it obviously isn't "fine"

If you want to control what she wears, dress her yourself.

Otherwise, he's an adult, he's her parent, he can put her in whatever he likes and/or she chooses,