to be annoyed with DD friend....

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DD is constantly having friends over today one was here around tea time so I asked if she was staying, I said we're having curry but it's only a mild one.
I heard her coughing whilst eating then they came in to say it had made her sick. I felt so awful, they were laughing. I asked DD if hers was OK she said 'well, I can see how she felt that way',
Earlier same friend stated to my DH when she found out he was going to olympics alone her dad says that would make him a loser or weirdo.
I feel upset she was sick but also insulted somehow, she could have declined and said sorry I don't like it instead of making a scene....

What a rude child.

She's 16....AIBU? or over sensitive?

I will be the laughing stock with her now,,,

16 i was really expecting you to say 8. How rude.

She made me feel so bad....incompetent even

DD is having a party on Saturday, she'll be back then she will have told all the others about it. Part of me wanted to offer to make something else but I thought no she can get lost!

God that's rude. I was expecting her to be much younger!

That's incredibly mean what she said about your DH too...if it's possible to limit the amount of time she spends in your house/around your DD, do it!

Thank you for your postings....unfortunately she's going to the same 6th form, I feel embarassed and uncomfortable, I'm not a brill cook but I am upset about her severe reaction!

She should be embarrassed at her total lack of manners.

Coming back for a party?

Don't feed her. Tell her last time you fed her it made her sick so you assumed she'd brought her own food.

16 is old enough to get married or join the army. She can make her own sandwich and use manners .

Some people are just rude. Remeber; it's your home, not hers. If she's rude you can ask her to leave. Or just make a sarky comment such as: 'Left your manners at the door again?'

And not liking food doesn't make someone sick. She's a diva.

No I understand how annoyed you'd be , could she not have tried a small bit too see first and then said thanks but no thanks??.

Worst thing was as my DD hadn't told me earlier she was staying my DH had to have something else for his tea and he was annoyed about that as he would have enjoyed it.

She made out she was OK with it, then later said we don't have many in our house, not that we do she just happened to be here when we had it!

She made me feel really bad

Jesus 16? I thought you were going to say 6! Wow, her manners are appalling

Why on earth did you give her your DH's tea? And you then put up with her bitching and moaning about your food? Honestly, I don't mean to sound mean but you need to grow a set. You're letting her make you feel embarrassed and uncomfortable. Don't feed her again.

send her home I would tolerate anybody acting like that in my house she sounds really cheeky, although teens do think people who do anything alone as weird or loners but still I would allow them over if they are like that

would you let your own 16 yr old treat you like that Its not up to you to cater to the whims of a `6 yr old ,

you need to set out coming home rules you cant have teens in and out like that without warning ,

I keep sending to early then thinking of something else to say ,

Why are you letting a ride 16 year old make you feel bad? If none of the rest of you were sick then I really don't think you can blame your cooking. And she was just plain rude to your DH.

I would not let her come to the party - tell your DD her friend was extremely rude and unless there is a genuine apology made on arrival she will be turned around and sent home.

She sounds like a bully!

Your DD also needs some stern words - she was rude by implying your food was sick inducing

that should be rude - not ride! Feeling cross on your behalf!!

We shall be having words later.....it obviously wasn't my food that made her sick as she took a couple of mouthfuls (looking at the plate) then made a scene in the loo. The more I think about it and read everyone's posts I am getting more annoyed.

It just comes down to her being rude and attention seeking. I shall tell my DD this when she has gone home later. I just hope I am not laughed at when she retells the story about

Feeling a bit 'used' by teenage daughter at the moment, it's my fault for being so accommodating and friendly, one friend stays over every weekend and eats with us and everyone knows the price of food these days. I am going to say she can stay but come after tea, it's too much and her parents dont reciprocate as they are too noisy and they don't like it!

To be honest - teenagers laugh about their parents for a variety of reasons, I wouldn't let that bother you

I think you are far too accommodating. I can't believe she is still there!