to be sick of reading complaints about Facebook

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So many threads about people reading things they don't like, or relationships damaged by things that shouldn't have been said.

That's the way FB is. If you don't like it don't use the thing - many of us manage perfectly well without it. But don't carry on using it and bloody wingeing.

YANBU

It's optional, people!

It's not even facebooks fault, it is the way some people use it that is to blame.
I love it, but then I don't use it to have a go at people, just to keep in touch with people and play some of the games.

I don't use it. I do worry about the effect it has on other people, though - young teens especially. Obsession with popularity, obsession with image, gossip, bullying etc etc.

Totally agree, I have never used it, never missed it and don't get into these endless debates about 'she said', 'he said' - it's all so juvenile . Just don't use it. . If I want to speak to friends I text, email or shock - use the telephone .

I don't believe a lot of the Facebook threads on here.

I think when some people want to start a controversial thread with a controversial statement, they pretend it was something they read on Facebook so they don't get flamed themselves.

It seems to be the new "My PILs are racist/sexist/whatever"...instead of posting statements they supposedly made, it's Facebook's turn.

Cynical? Moi?

I hate the way some people use Facebook tbh, hate the playing out of entire lives on it, relationship break ups etc etc also dislike people announcing pregnancy on there (although that may have more to do with the fact a lot of people I know announce it at 6 weeks and I have seen 2 have to announce miscarriages) also it felt rather insensitive of them when I was ttc

I use it to express happiness about the good things in life although sometimes moan a bit about being ill. Find all the bitching (some of that really does happen) extremely childish!

YANBU.

It's not Facebook's fault, it's how people USE it.

If your DH uses it to flirt with women and have affairs then it is HIS fault, not Facebook's
If you don't like it when people post pics of their cute children, HIDE the pics, it's not Facebook's fault!
If people leave abusive messages on FB, it's THEIR fault, not Facebook's

etc

I stopped using it a few months ago and I don't miss it at all. When people ask me 'why arent you on facebook anymore?' and I reply 'Because I don't need or want it' they act like I've become a Scientologist or something.

The trouble is, that children are using FB and their parents are not protecting them. Children who are not mature enough to manage face-to-face social relationships, let alone online ones.

I'm amazed by how much power people attribute to FB.

I use it because I live abroad and I can keep up with the tiny details of peoples lives that make me smile, like the fact that my old secretaries DD is going to be a cow in the school play, or a photo of my cousin in Bali. Stuff that keeps me in touch. I dip in an out as I like.

I've never even seen posts about anything other than the most superficial stuff on there, and can't believe people actually use it as a proper form of communication.
FB is like a telephone IMO. Something that can be a source of strife, but it's otherwise a pretty neutral thing.

yanbu OP

Lol @ nizlopi

When I fell out with a close friend last year, she actually text me to say 'I won't bad mouth you on fb and I expect the same from you' hahaha wtaf?! She is an incessant user of fb and recently [apparently, I deleted and blocked her months ago] related an entire graphic push by push description of the birth of her pfb [shudder],

I just use it for keeping in touch with people I can't be arsed to speak to and showing off pictures of my utterly cute puppy

also dislike people announcing pregnancy on there (although that may have more to do with the fact a lot of people I know announce it at 6 weeks and I have seen 2 have to announce miscarriages) also it felt rather insensitive of them when I was ttc

What are they supposed to do? Keep pregnancy a secret from friends and family in case anyone they know might be TTC?

In my eyes people who need to know about a pregnancy do by seeing/talking on a phone/private messaging, plastering all over Facebook at 6 weeks esp with the risks of problems!

I wouldn't do it before the dating scan, but yes, of course there's nothing wrong with putting a pregnancy on Facebook!

dislike people announcing pregnancy on there (although that may have more to do with the fact a lot of people I know announce it at 6 weeks and I have seen 2 have to announce miscarriages) also it felt rather insensitive of them when I was ttc

all those psychic insensitive bessie mates of yours want shot...

that smacks of 'i told you so' re the miscarriage bit btw which is also insensitive to people who have told people they were pregnant early and miscarried btw

just so you know

someone actually told me I would 'undoubtedly have a miscarriage now' when I announced my pregnancy (by accident!) at work

She was luck I was pregnant the insensitive cow. I'll tell MY news when I bloody well want

YANBU! Though I do sometimes enjoy watching the drama unfold on there from the safety of Castleville. My excuse is I have no telly, facebook is my Jeremy Kyle!

my mil hates facebook, she bangs on about how its just for people to cheat on their partners etc, if you mention facebook she gets cat bum face and had a go at me because my, now unfriended sil told her i had baby pics on there (my dad and uncle live abroad and they rest of my family are spread around the uk from edinburgh to devon, its cheaper than sending them pics) and ANYTHING could happen

she seems to forget she wouldnt have 4 of her grandchildren without facebook since thats how i met my husband..

What is this "face - book" of which you speak ?

Seriously - I personally think it is too hard so don't do it , but as with anything , it's how you use it.

Ooh err Missus

I don't quite get why people have such a problem with Facebook - I'm on it a lot, and if someone regularly posts weird/irritating stuff I either hide or delete them, it's very easy.
I find it to be a very positive place, none of my Fcbk friends use it to bitch, it's generally updates on life and photos. Then again, I'm not friends with anyone I wouldn't happily have a drink with, and only have one teen on it.

I seem to have online double standards tho - a childhood friend peppered every status update with cunt/twat etc so I hid him as it got very grating, but here on MN the language doesn't bother me at all! maybe it's because his rude words would be directly over a baby pic of my nephew, or friends wedding pics

I use it to express happiness about the good things in life

For many people that means sharing good news e.g. pregnancy. I'm sure no one posts their good news meaning to be unkind. Any status update could inadvertently cause pain to someone. For example talking about a parent's birthday could upset someone who has lost a parent.

Exactly LadyWidmerpool.
Are we not supposed to share good news in case we upset people who have had bad news?

Should the possibility of causing upset invalidate the capacity for joy?

Why on earth Shouldn't people put their pregnancy news on FB? If it's supposedly early, then that's their choice and their risk. If it inadvertently upsets someone TTC- then how on earth are they supposed to know? Are they not allowed to share their good news because someone else isn't pregnant yet?

madness.

and remember people - there is a HIDE button.

(for those you don't want to read about but daren't delete)