To NOT Go Out

[SophieLeGiraffe]

It's my birthday today. I have arranged a rare night out in London with colleagues, someone to collect DS from nursery, take him home, put him to bed. DH plays a sport regularly (religiously) on a Thursday evening.

Have taken a call to say DS (16mo) is not well, high temp at nursery, off food, not massively happy overall.

Now obviously I want to go home to my sick baby even though I have contacted DH who has agreed to go home asap.

If I go out I will feel awful as my heart isn't in it now.

If I go home I will feel awful as then neither of us is doing what we intended.

My (childless) colleagues say "DH is going to him, why on earth would you have to go home?". But I can't in all honestly go out drinking when I know my baby is poorly. So WIBU to just go home? Or just have one drink close to office and then go?

Go out, DH can see to him, he is his father and will cope. It doesn't make you a bad mother.

Put it into perspective, he is ill, but he is going to be ill soooo many times over the next 16 years, you cannot put everything on hold for him. YABU go out.

Go for one drink, text DH to see how he is, then decide.

He may very well perk up later.

funnily enough this happened to DH and I at xmas on a rare occasion we had a babysitter and were going to his office xmas party.

PIL were in charge and both DC were sick and had high temperatures and I really debated staying home. In the end I decided they were probably in safer hands with PIL as they are ultra cautious people and would be far more likely to call NHS direct/rush to A and E than DH or I would be so we went.

I had a couple of glasses of wine and came home at 10.30 DH rolled in at 5am

Go out with your colleagues and get DH to keep you updated as to how your DS is. Chances are that DS will get home have some Calpol and a cuddle then go straight to sleep so the pair of you will be at home for nothing.

Well OP the best thing for your little one is some liquids, some Calpol and early to bed. At 16 mos my two had a bedtime of 7pm - so you would be sitting at home on your birthday with a sleeping child in the next room (or upstairs or whatever).

Go forth and be merry! It's your birthday! And then when you get there if you are still truly miserable you can always bail early

Happy Birthday by the way

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I missed it was your birthday! Happy birthday!! Yes, do go, please!

You are all very nice. My boss has persuaded me to go to a place closer to our office for one or two.

You're right of course, DS will be in bed by 7pm so we'd both just be sat there perhaps I could catch up on sleep from last two nights' teething

Thank you.

YABU. Don't be a martyr! Your DS has two parents.