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AIBU?

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to not take out my teaching day on my DS?

18 replies

enimmead · 04/07/2012 22:52

Had a bad few days on supply. Well not bad but a lot of children who seemed incapable of following instructions, listening to each other and who insisted they had the right to talk over everyone else because they were so important. Then a few of did not get the work done in class and winged it was boring and "Miss lets us play if we have to cancel PE"

So get home, collect son from after school club and we practised spellings. He did not want to do them, he winged, tried to negotiate, did them unneatly with little effort. Just hard work - which was the last thing I needed after two days of supply.

I think he got a bit of my stress from the previous few days. We perservered with some sad faces on the board (actually that was bloody effective - never done that with him but it really worked). But it felt exactly the same as being a teacher and as stressful. Except I did not have the yellow card system when I could send him to the office so his parents got a phone call about his behaviour. Because I am his parent.:)

Anyway - he did hear about my day and how I felt when I told him off for not working and it finally sunk in.

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enimmead · 04/07/2012 22:53

Ooh - just realised. Double negative with AIBU and my post. I don't know if IABU or not :)

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lovebunny · 04/07/2012 22:54

when daughter started school i soon had to tell her not to take her day out on me - and when i started teaching, she told me the same thing!
but, if our telling the dearest ones about life as a teacher helps them to work harder at school, it is worth it.

WorraLiberty · 04/07/2012 22:57

What about his day though?

How did that go for him?

I'm not sure if YABU or not really...I suppose I'm trying to see what it has to do with you teaching.

You had a bad day like a lot of parents and your child didn't fancy doing his spellings like a lot of kids...it's been a long day for him too especially with having to go to after school club.

Oh and I rarely pick posters up on their spelling because that would make me look like a knob...but being as though you're a teacher and you're talking about your child's spellings, it's whinged Blush

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 04/07/2012 23:00

Grin worra - I thought it was like winging it .(what my DS does. Wings it not whinges)

itdoesnthurttohavemanners · 04/07/2012 23:03

Sounds like you've been doing supply in my classroom. Sounds like a normal day to me :o (the grin is because I only have 3 weeks left with my little horrors lively bunch)

FunnysInLaJardin · 04/07/2012 23:05

YANBU or something. We all have bad days. DH is a teacher and hates dealing with kids all day, then picking up our dc and dealing with them for the rest of the day.

I don't teach but have been in a BAD mood for days (the rain I think). I shouted at the DC this am, DS1 was lovely and really understood I was cross and so they both got some Lego tonight.

Give yourself a break. You are human!

WorraLiberty · 04/07/2012 23:06

I'm confused now 70's I'm not sure about they 'winged it was boring' but I stand to be corrected and called a knob Grin

OP, is there any way he can do his spellings at his after school club?

I don't know about your child by my DS's friend is only 9yrs old and has to put in a 10 hour day at school with breakfast club and then after school club too.

His Mum found he just wasn't in the mood to do his homework when he finally got home because he just wanted to relax and spend some fun time with his parents before going to bed 2hrs after he got home.

enimmead · 04/07/2012 23:06

Ooop - come on, it is late at night. And it is not a word I usually spell :)

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enimmead · 04/07/2012 23:09

Spellings at after school club :) I would love to see him do that. He has an hour to spend outside with his best friend running round, playing football, trampolining and just chatting. If I asked him to do spellings there - I think he might disagree a bit.

I had the day from hell on Tuesday. Year 5 and 6 children who had so much attitude. I had no right to tell them to do anything apparently.

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 04/07/2012 23:09

I skim-read it.
It is late and I've been up in London on a study evening (Improving Myself) - so don't trust anything I write.

enimmead · 04/07/2012 23:11

worra his day was lovely. He went to the new class, they did Aboriginal art and listened to a story of how the world was created. Sounds bliss :)

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WorraLiberty · 04/07/2012 23:14

Ok fair enough Smile

I think I was just trying to point out that regardless of what you do for a living, kids will always have stubborn moments when it comes to these things.

It's just that sometimes as adults, we can be a bit too quick to dismiss a child's day at school as 'easy' in comparison to our own IYSWIM.

Doesn't seem to be the case here though.

Nagoo · 04/07/2012 23:14

I get proper vexed when DH gets home in a strop with DS because he has had a hard day with the DC at school.

Our child shouldn't bear the brunt of that.

I do try and realise that in his job, a bit of wind down time from the DC is a good idea when he first gets in. Circumstances being what they are, he doesn't always get it though.

theroseofwait · 04/07/2012 23:30

I always try and have a cup of and a chat with a colleague do some paperwork for an hour or so before I leave to pick my own kids up, otherwise I'm still in teacher mood mode and I don 't see why my children should suffer for the behaviour of others.

theroseofwait · 04/07/2012 23:31

Cup of tea!! Bloody iPad. . .

echt · 05/07/2012 00:22

I think the extra consideration given by teachers is because somehow we, as teachers, should know better.

When DD was little (2 -3) I was in an extremely stressful school - special measures - and there were many days when I felt that other people's children got the best of my patience, leaving me drained and emotionally flattened by the end of the day. I wasn't IMpatient, ratty or shouty, just flat.

I took a course in self-hypnosis which was very helpful. As was quitting the job, even though I had no job to go to (not before I got them their best results ever).:o

MrsTerryPratchett · 05/07/2012 03:11

Nagoo, thanks for "proper vexed". It whisked me right back to South London. I miss home.

Nagoo · 05/07/2012 09:13

Grin I have a number of terms for that.

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