To hide from my sister in law

[mummahubba]

Grrr I am fuming!!! My SL has always been bitchy to me. Here's a few examples; one time she told me to throw the cake I had bought her and her family in the bin because they didn't eat cake. When we used to visit (saw them every few months) she would sit in the room just me and her and ignore me. She NEVER asks me how I am or anything about myself. She basically treats me as if I don't exist, she never makes eye contact and makes endless shitty little comments, she sneers at anything I cook and picks around with it and doesn't eat it. Anyway, she has come to visit us and now this is going on in MY house. She arrived and didn't kiss me hello, ignored me etc etc, the usual behaviour. Hubby has had it out with her in the past and she says nothing has happened. She's sly cos she's all friendly with me infront of him. Anyway, she's here now for 4 days with her spoilt brat child. I have a 7 week old baby and a toddler and frankly don't need her playground bitchy behaviour in my house and my toddler has never been around this sort of nonsense. What do I do???? They're staying nearby and I'm just dreading spending time with them. Part of me wants to keep out of the way but then I think WTF keep out of the way in my own house!!! Hubby will do what I would like him to do about it but I just don't know what to do. She behaves like a 14 year old girl in the playground. I suppose this isn't really about being unreasonable but blimey isn't this behaviour unreasonable?!

Lay down the rules. If she's in your house, then she's civilised and polite, whether she likes it or not. If she doesn't like it, then she can leave. Stand up for yourself, you deserve better.

dont invite her round.. I cant understand why she would come round if she doesnt like you

I'd make an excuse for them not to see you at yours - meet on neutral ground (park, cafe, wherever) and only when dh is also there. She sounds like a PITA BTW - Yanbu

Yanbu - its ur home!
Doesn't eat - tell her she's welcome to the use of ur kitchen to make her own.

Any spoilt behaviour call her on it.

P.s. If she's quiet/ ignores u wander off find her hubby have a great chat or play with ur baby / dh and if she says anything jus say oh u were soooo quiet I thot u wanted peace to clear ur head, or from ur dc

Did you use her marks and spencers cloth. :)
only joking. I would tell her to fuck off, however i have been told I am very blunt. I have actually told my sil this after finding her going through my stuff to prove to dh I was cheating. I wasn't but she was terrified that dh would no longer be at her beck and call when we married. This was almost 11 years ago. I had it out with her and she is always nice to me now.
Sometimes these sort of people only respond to being told, very bluntly, you don't accept their behaviour and won't tolerate it.
As an aside she then got caught stealing from my pile so I think the cheating story was bullshit, so does dh. Luckily for me sils behaviour has made dh distance himself. I didn't ask him to but he was very hurt. In fact I asked her to be bridesmaid to keep as a gesture to be friends.
She is not my favourite person, but we can get along for the sake of our kids and pils.

She sounds awful. I would give her two chances and then if she is rude again, ask her to leave. You really don't need this with a new baby and toddler. My MIL was awful when I was in the same situation with a new one. What you really do need is to be supported and cared for etc at such a point in time. Your DH has to take the lead in showing her the door if unnecessary. You need to concentrate on the baby, your toddler and looking after yourself.

Some families really can't take their sons/brothers growing up and living independent lives.

I think I would have to confront her and ask what the hell her problem is. If she's going to be a bitch and treat you like crap in your own home, find some strength and stand up to her. Tell her you will not accept behaviour like this in your home and if she's suffering so much by your presence, she's very welcome to fuck right off and not come back.

Passive aggressive, sly, twisted cunt.

What the fuck are you even giving her the time of day?

Tell her, her behaviour feels unkind and is as far you are concerned unwarranted. Maybe she treats others this way but you do not want to or have to, for nobody's sake.

Stand up for yourself. Then avoid her like the fucking walking diseased bitch IT is.

LIFE IS TOO SHORT.

put up with her shit*

I'm confused. In one sentence you say she has come to visit you and in another she is staying nearby. If she isn't actually staying with you then I'd probably see her one of the days to be polite and do other stuff on the other days if she doesn't like you.
I don't kiss my SILs so don't see not being all kissy as a problem. I wouldn't put up with rudeness though and would challenge that in my house. You don't have to like and get on with someone just because they are a friend or relative of your husband though. He could go off and do stuff without you if he likes her and you don't.