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AIBU?

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To refuse to teach this woman next week?

54 replies

Terminal2 · 04/07/2012 16:01

I work at a riding school (have namechanged to avoid outing said school) and this morning was asked to give a private lesson to a 33 year old woman. Naturally as she is a beginner I chose her a quiet, calm yard horse, naturally a bit slow and sedate but more importantly, safe.

So she gets on the horse and immediately asks me "will I be cantering today?" I said "no, that is for when you become more advanced" and she replied "fucking hell" Shock. So ignoring what I assumed to be a slip of the tongue I asked her to walk the horse around the school. She did this well and seemed pretty confident. All was ok until I asked her to trot - she kicked the horse and he didn't budge (as I said, he's slow!) and so I suggested she use her voice as well as her legs. Well, she immediately sprang into a tirade of insults - "Go on you bastard! fucking move you dopey c*nt, come on come on!! for fucking hells sake, fat bastard thing move your fat arse!! etc etc" all the time kicking softly so he could barely feel it. At one point I became paranoid that I was on some kind of hidden camera comedy show it was surreal. I told her to calm down and she replied that she was calm but "soppy bollocks here needs a rocket up his arse".

Anyway the lesson continued, she dismounted and to talk to her she seemed fine! well dressed, nice car (judgemental I know but to afford a car like that either she holds down a good job or her husband does at least!) so I just don't understand the outbursts.

AIBU to refuse to teach her next week despite the fact that she's asked specifically for me? she makes me uncomfortable.

OP posts:
geegee888 · 04/07/2012 17:09

I don't think you're unreasonable for objecting to being subjected to foul language while you're at work. I think it was quite disrespectful to you. I think its entirely up to you whether you refuse to teach her again. Although I must admit I'd be a bit curious as to her response if you asked her not to swear. Has someone maybe told its something cowboys do to horses or something equally bizarre?

MrsSutherland · 04/07/2012 17:10

That made me laugh - you're a beautiful twat - brilliant!

scurryfunge · 04/07/2012 17:13

Sorry cant help laughing.
(childish)

Catsdontcare · 04/07/2012 17:13

I would have her back and suggest to her that you film the lesson so she can see her progress then maybe when she watch's it back she will be mortified. If not you've got a v funny video to keep

cocolepew · 04/07/2012 17:14

Was it Jordan?

pjmama · 04/07/2012 17:14

Good on you for keeping your face straight! I'd have wet myself laughing I think. As long as she's being kind to the horse and listening to what you're teaching her, then I don't think the swearing would bother me. But if you don't like it, ask her not to do it.

carabos · 04/07/2012 17:15

I think you need to unpick all of the extraneous stuff and simply say to her that you find her language offensive and please can she not swear.

usualsuspect · 04/07/2012 17:18

Sorry I'm laughing a soppy bollocks , she sounds a riot to me Grin

usualsuspect · 04/07/2012 17:19

at*

Dawndonna · 04/07/2012 17:19

Well, if we're going to be judgemental, I do get so bored with the strange working class idea that women shouldn't swear.
But hey, that's the working class for you.

ivanapoo · 04/07/2012 17:19

If this isn't a joke thread I'll eat a twatty horse.

NarkedRaspberry · 04/07/2012 17:29

If this is real, I'd tell her she can carry on swearing until she runs out of breath but the horse won't get the gist. Then show her again how to communicate what she needs it to do.

BalloonSlayer · 04/07/2012 17:30

Can the horse speak English? Would he be offended?

Am now imagining him like the Moose from Fawlty Towers:

"I can speak Eeenglish. I learn it from a booooook. You cunt."

CherryBlossom27 · 04/07/2012 17:32

If it was me I'd speak to the owner/manager as I don't think anyone should be teaching this lady to ride horses! She's got a terrible attitude and horses pick up on human emotion so she'd probably end up causing herself an accident imho! Very awkward situation to be put into though!

Hullygully · 04/07/2012 17:34

This can't be true

I'm not saying I don't believe you

But

TheSoggyBunny · 04/07/2012 17:34

I'm going to stick my neck out here and say I would also have taken a look at her vehicle before deciding a course of action.

If she drives a car, she probably works, or is integrated into society in some way, therefore probably could control her swearing. Even if like me she is in quite a sweary profession. So I'd tell her nicely to shut the fuck up swearing. Please.

However if she gets back into a minibus marked 'St Dunstans home for the terminally fucking sweary' I'd assume she might have mh issues, and therefore might need treating with a little more compassion.

SoleSource · 04/07/2012 17:36

The type to swear? Hmm

YANBU, just say neigh.

cannot understand why people think sitting on a bleeding horse is fun

CherryBlossom27 · 04/07/2012 17:36

Oh, just read the thread! If she's ok except for the language, pick her up on it straightaway! I'd still have a word with the owner / manager before the lesson though to cover yourself!

VolAuVent · 04/07/2012 17:39

Whether true or not...

... I'm surprised at all the anti-swearing replies on here! It's not as if no-one ever swears on MN, is it? :o

Only problem I can see with the customer is being unwilling to take the teacher's advice. I wouldn't teach someone who argued and complained about the lessons.

ExitPursuedByABear · 04/07/2012 17:40

This is hilarious Grin

Are you sure she wasn't winding you up?

GrahamTribe · 04/07/2012 18:31

It is a little, um, hard to believe isn't it Hully?

SoleSource · 04/07/2012 18:47

£28.00 per hour here for one to one private novice tuition. Imagine it would take years and years at the rate of one hour per week to learn to ride a horse.

She might have Tourettes.

NarkedRaspberry · 04/07/2012 19:02

Could you get her to say, 'Trot on, you dopey cunt!'

carabos · 04/07/2012 20:18

balloon horses talk like Scooby-Doo, not Mooses.

picnicbasketcase · 04/07/2012 20:20

Are you sure you didn't dream this?

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