It's like feminism never happened

[Mrswhiskerson]

After Reading fifty shades of grey I googled the trilogy and found some articles on the rise of mummy porn , incidentally last week I was Reading about the rise of mummy blogging and mummy buisnesess and along with the deep hatred a lot of journalists (both male and female) seem to have for mumsnet it really seems to me that society is still uncomfortable with women having strong opinions careers and call the church elders actually enjoying sex for reasons other than having children.

Apparently according to one paper women are meeting up and giggling over the saucy parts , I really think women can read sex scenes without giggling we are not adolescents.

I just find it really offensive it's like oh you started a buisness and had children how very clever you are it's only a mummy buisness but how very clever (pat on the head)

grrr

is it just me

And don't get me started on the whole yummy mummy thing

I dislike the stupid 'mommy' bit but also I always thought 'porn' was more film images/visual, so calling 50 shades 'porn' seems wrong on that level too. Surely it's just old fashioned erotica?

I would hate it if everything I did was prefixed with mummy: I had my mummy breakfast and listened to the mummy radio. Where is the choice in that, endangered (mummy) otter?

It is not the book I couldn't care less what people read or get up to in their own homes (does anyone actually read the op anymore? Or is it an optional extra?) it is the mummy tag put before it I find so offensive .
What's wrong with just liking a bt of smut? Why do we have to read it in groups and giggle over the rude bits? likewise why feel the need to meet up with other women over salad and wine and talk about our bowels or eat yoghurt with the rapture of someone eating chocolate straight off brad Pitt?

I mentioned the Yummy mummy thing because I feel it is also highly insulting to women , you have given life ,pushed another human out of your body it is a amazing miracle but your not doin it right unless you have some god awful cupcake embroidered pink bag with yummy mummy emblazoned on it or fit into a tiny bikini half an hour after giving birth.

It is so patronising and no matter what women do no matter how amazing groundbreaking or just plain brilliant it can only be acceptable
if it is pink fluffy cutesy and non threatening.

Bollocks to that Endangered Otter, since you can't control what others call you. I would never want to be called somehting as vile as a yummymummy , but where is my choice of what terms others use?

Your choice doesn't control the media that talks about us all.

It is not the book I couldn't care less what people read or get up to in their own homes (does anyone actually read the op anymore? Or is it an optional extra?) it is the mummy tag put before it I find so offensive

Yeah but to be fair it was a bit waffly.

All the other threads complaining about the term 'Mummy Porn' have been a bit more straight to the point.

YANBU it's an awful phrase.

I'm starting up a business. If anyone calls it a mummy business I may well punch them.

(Well I wouldn't but they'd get The Stare).

On a similar note, I have lost count of the number of people, (men mostly, I'm afraid), who have said things like, oh you could do child minding. Or bringing in ironing (kill me now) if it doesn't work out. They wouldn't say it to DH if it was him starting up.

I generally get annoyed with this feminist posts belittling my choice to take on the traditional housewife role. However in this case I absolutely agree, what riles me most is mummy bloggers, particularly if what they are blogging about is not their children; because in that case the mummy tag is totally irrelevant.

Bloggers annoy me full stop

I don't know why the word 'Mummy' annoys me so much but it just does.

I absolutely cringe when adults call their Mums 'Mummy' and when posters talk about their 'Mummy friends'.

Bleurrrgghh!

And I agree with worra. About everything. Ever.

You owe me £5k and a bottle of whisky Lentilly

I think you'll find, worra, that it's YOU that owes me. I'll see you in court.

Mummy porn is GAK.

Agree with Mrswhiskerson and PenisVanLesbian. The latter: you've made me snort happily.

Masculine = the world; the norm - requires no definitional adjuncts

Female = bit of world; deviation from the norm - requires definition and little adjectives warning "people" (men?) we're off to strange territory

Mum stuff = yikes!! - miniscule; requiring of microscopes and mirth and patronising adjectives.

70s and 80s feminists spent a lot of time unpacking and challenging that kind of thinking. Somehow "mummy" lets it sneak back.

I would say that part of it is down to "mummies" being recognised as a consumer target, though. Which is bloody weird.

But seriously, enough with this tedious book. I'm beginning to feel it's stalking me.

It's only a name. I don't believe that calling it mummy porn is sexist. Because regular porn is watched by both sexes tbh I don't know why they didn't call it soft porn. A friend of mine who is male is reading the books so it's not all mummy that are reading them, also has a single female friend reading the books.

its not only a name. It's not porn, and there is nothing about it that is specifically for women who have given birth, so its an inaccurate and deliberately demeaning label.

Why do people buy naughty books if your that desperate watch some real porn, for free!

(I'm aware I sound a bit like a man)

I agree 'mummy' is patronizing like its not legitimate enough to be simply called a business.

They're not "giggling", FFS, they're howling with raucous laughter at the sheer inanity of the book. Like this.

Mummy porn should be porn featuring mummies, shouldn't it? I bet there are one or two archaeological researchers who've explored the potentials of a mummy.

Mummy business: We Wrap! Lifetime Plus guarantee!

Mummy blog: My adventures in the British Museum's Egyptian Room (might be mummy porn, too, I guess.)