To think he was BU?

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I woke up early this morning with the mother of all migraines, I was actually in tears with the pain. I stumbled down stairs for my medication (unfortunately I get migraines often but this one was spectacularly bad).
I woke dh up on my way back into bed, and asked him to get up with dcs. He started moaning then saw I was really in pain so did. I passed out in a drug and pain induced haze only to be woken at 10 with him telling me he was off to work and would phone to check on me later!
Youngest dc is 19mths so vegging on the couch all day isn't an option and oldest two have swimming lessons later.
AIBU to be pissed he just left? Fair enough it seems to be starting to shift but he left without knowing that.

YABU.

He has to work, doesn't he? You have them a lot, he can't be off work every time. He told you he was leaving, he didn't just vanish and leave the DC uncared for.

I know I sound deeply unsympathetic, but it's not like he fucked off to play golf.

I do feel for you, migraines are horrid but sorry, YABU - he was going to work, not swanning off on a jolly boys outing.

Hope you feel better soon!

I feel for you because migranes are no fun at all.

However, if he has to go to work what can he do?

Surely (and this is not meant to sound funny although it will) if you can post on the internet, your migraine has lifted and you can get on with your day?

This is aibu so I'm going to state the obvious. If you had a migraine you might manage to stumble about the house a bit, but the last thing you'd want to do would be to look at a computer screen.
Your DH can't take days off work because you are sick, he obviously went in late, but I can't see how you could expect him to do anything else.

Yabu and not yanbu
If he had to go to work he had to go to work, If Dh told his boss he was taking a day for my migraine it would go down very badly

Migraines are really shit though so I can understand where your coming from

come on OP, he has a job, he cant take the day off because his wife has a headache.

And to be fair, like Worra said, if you are up to posting on here to moan about him, you are not at deaths door.

I think what was clouding my judgement is that he works partly for family and partly for himself so there would be no huge repercussions for missing a days work (and the fact I've missed days at college so I can watch the kids when he's ill).
Anyway I am feeling better now, thanks for taking the time to answer

(He didn't go in late, can start basically when he wants to)

YABU and unfair to your DH. Hope you feel better soon. i think you do already. Order a take-away for tea if you can.