DS was nursery terror now coming home with bruises.

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I've posted before about my anguish over ds behavioural issues at nursery.

over the last few days I've noticed a red scrape under his nose and along his cheekbone, I wasn't nor his dad told what they were from , but thought he' boisterous he could have done it himself.

But today hes come home with a large bruise under his chin, which for whatever reason unsettled me. He quite often gets little bruises on his legs but due to his nature he always legging it around , running into things and never cries, but this felt different.

I have a slight concern that because DS was/is a difficult child at times and some of the workers have favourites I've noticed, that if any picking on/bullying was occurring they would turn a blind eye as they felt he deserved it.

I hope I don't sound too hysterical , loony mum saying that, even if that was the case I wouldn't be that mum who goes in guns blazing cause I have been on the other side plus DS is pretty robust tbh, I'd just want to know , I know nursery is where kids learn the law of the jungle so to speak.

Plus I have noticed him be very quiet when he comes home, even my mum noticed. But he's always excited to go in the morning so I'm

WIBU to ask the nursery about this tomorrow.

They should have told you when you collected him if he's had an accident, they should all be recorded. If the staff are turning a blind eye when children are being bullied then I'd remove him straight away and notify Ofsted.

Of course not.

Why wouldn't you?

If he doesn't tend to cry, it might mean no-one was aware he'd hurt himself but there's no harm in checking.

How old is he?

nearly 3 he has speech SN I mean he can talk put pronunciation is an issue he has a lisp. so he may struggle to say 'so and so hit me'.

Yes you should speak to them to find out what happened. It may be that he tripped and fell on a toy or something and they didnt notice, or it maybe that he was nasty to another kid and they lamped him one (hopefully not though)

Any yeah regardless, have a word just to see what happened.

yeah I mean they were quite up on telling when he had injured other kids like bite marks etc ,
it seems odd that he comes home with three quite noticeable marks in the space of 2 days and I haven't heard anything.

I would have asked what happened the first time, if I wasn't offered an explanation

Don't worry, just ask them, in a nice, reasonable way.

Sounds like you don't trust them tbh - have you considered moving his nursery? Perhaps to one where the workers don't have favourites - or at least not so obviously that a parent can pick up on it?!

Sounds like one (or more) of the other children have got sick of being hit/bitten by him and had a go back. Whether the staff have turned a bit of a blind eye to it is a different matter. They can't be particularly on the ball if your DS has managed to "wound" other children in the past though, so it may not be that they deliberately haven't stopped it, just that they aren't very good at stopping it iyswim.
Ask them outright, in person, and watch them closely as they answer - do they hesitate or seem "shify" at all and so on.

It's possible that they didn't notice if he didn't complain?

Maybe a new child has started who is equally "boisterous" and is fighting back with your DS? It could be that the nursery are putting it down to 6 of 1 etc.

Recording injuries is NOT optional.

Any injury, mark or scrape has to be recorded, and the record signed by whoever collects the child, to prove that you were informed.

If the nursery is regularly unable to account for injuries to a child, please do keep your own records and inform Ofsted.

DD has had a couple of bruises on the chin. Tends to be when she gets excited or annoyed and 'bounces' then whacks her chin on the coffee table/side of the crib. Could it have happened at night and you didn't notice?

If you don't trust the people caring for your son, I would look for new care.

It could be I mean if a child was hitting him back then thats just life really their 2 plus its a very valuable 'what goes around comes around' lesson to my little |bugger| boy .

Just seems odd I was inundated with he's hit/bitten which I dealt with and apologised to parents etc, but would hate to think he's not being treat with the same vigilance.
Some of his workers are really great and have helped him come so far, speech , behaviour etc. But there are always that few that I think go into that line of work for the sake of it and focus on 'easy' kids. and generally have favorites.

I would notice a whack like that in the house.
I know a lot of his shin bruises happen and home and elsewhere I've never panicked about them.

if there had been an incident, they would have had to document it

DS comes home from nursery with all sorts of bruises, he can't remember how he got them
he's currently got 2 scratches on his face that no-one else noticed, but i think he did himself( i cut his nails)

If he doesn't complain, they might not notice
I wouldn't worry too much
Maybe mention it, but don't make too big a fuss

This nursery sounds shit - there's no one at mine who is just in it for the sake of it and focus on the easy kids

As an ex cm all bruises or cuts have to be recorded, even if they turn up with one from home so EVERYONE is being watched( in child's best interest).

Definatly ask, if it was a big facial bruise or cut I am surprised the staff didn't notice even if they didn't see how it happened.

thebody - I was a bit surprised when they recorded in the accident book, DD2's scraped knees, hands and massive lump on her head (she tripped over the patio doors while running into the garden) but I understand why they did (she had plasters, well dressings really, about 3x4" on both knees!).

I would be ever so surprised they didn't notice it happening or your child with the injuries in the time he was with them. They clocked DD2's within seconds of her walking into the setting!

Definitely mention it. DS came home with a scratch 1cm away from his eye that DH unbelievably didn't notice when he collected him, but I noticed as soon as he walked in the door. I called nursery that evening to ask what had happened and all hell was let loose when it became apparent it had gone unnoticed and unreported.

Two truthsweet, it can be a bit embarrassing to record cuts and bruises done at home but I find all parents have understood that's it's a regulatory requirement and to protect all of the children and of course parents and carers from accusations.

It's all in the tact.

Op just ask definatly don't be shy.