WWYD - ds being bitten at nursery

[worriedmum100]

Ds has been in a lovely nursery 3 days a week for last few months. He is very settled and loves it. But, over the last few weeks he has been bitten several times. I have tried to be understanding and not come over all PFB. The staff have a plan in place for the biter etc and.I'm v aware that on the other side of this is a very upset mum of another toddler and I know I'd be distraught if it was my ds who suddenly started biting. I've spoken to head of nursery who has explained what's being done but I wonder if I should be doing more? Of course I don't want ds to keep being hurt and I feel very guilty about him being there and not protecting him etc but also don't want to massively over react. Should I be doing more? Ds is very robust and does not seem to be upset by it (over and above the initial shock/pain of the bite if that makes sense) and according to staff is fine after a cuddle. He has been bitten once since the plan was put in place. I want to have another word but DH says they are doing what they can and we should leave it for now. WWYD?

I have been in this position, and I think it depends on how well you feel they are managing it. The little girl that bit my DS was only in at the same time as him for 1 day a week, which made it more managable, however once they realised that she had a thing for him in particular (he must be tasty) they separated them so she was never in biting range and it never happened again. She was little though, just crawling, so it wasn't as if she could run across the room before they could stop her.
I would probably want to meet with the key workers to discuss the plan and make sure absolutely everything possible was being done to stop it. If it kept happening on a regular basis I would be concerned that the plan was insufficient or not being carried out.

I don't know, but I am ashamed to say dd did this to a boy once and only once at nursery. I had stern words at home and laid out sanctions if she ever did it again. I sat down and explained to her how biting and hitting hurts and is not nice. She understood and never did it again.

I think as the bitee there isn't much you can do apart from telling him to maybe keep away from said biter, but I hope the biters mother is doing some disciplining at home to stop it from happening again.

FutureNannyOgg is right. If you are confident the nursery are dealing with the problem effectively then leave it. If your son is upset and you think more should be done the go in and have a chat.

Has the nursery just started to deal with the boys biting? It could just be teething problems (excuse the pun) and a one off

Biting is a really difficult thing as a mum I absolutely understand your angst as a nursery nurse I see that we encourage children to use their senses and their mouth is another sensory tool and some children are 'biters' really the problem lies with the nursery it is their job to avoid situations where this can happen,if you have a 'biter' they need watching all the time they need constant reminding and distraction they need to learn its not acceptable -thankfully it is usually a short phase and does pass but I would say once is an accident but then youre forewarned ......nursery need to keep a firm eye on this and I think if it happened again youd have every right to be annoyed with them.

I should add as well that ds1 was biter, he bit several children in one day once and I had to slink up to the doors at pick up and apologise to alot of mothers, It took a few telling off from the nursery before ds got the message and stopped.

Thanks for the replies. He was bitten a few times on consecutive days before the plan, one was v nasty. He's had one minor bite in last two weeks since plan was implemented so I guess that's an improvement. They tell me ds isnt being targeted (he is 14 months) but wont confirm who is biting or whether its same child each time. I suspect its either a teething or frustration issue. Not sure if biter is being firmly told "no" but have assumed so as this would seem a basic thing to do to me.