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My neighbour is an inconsiderate arse but I don't have a leg to stand on :(

113 replies

BupcakesandCunting · 02/07/2012 16:26

And so I can't knock on his door and moan at him which is riling me up even more...

I live in a terraced house with no off-road parking. Our street is a mix of this type of housing and a few big houses with driveways so parking is tight. The bloke two doors up (end of terrace) had his front garden turned into a driveway so his wife parks her car on there whilst he parks his 4x4 to the left of his house so his wife can easily get on/off the drive without him needing to come out and move the 4x4.

Now, the idiot has bought one of those massive Warrior cars (4x4 with an extra bit on the back) and he has taken to parking outside my house every single day and not moving it once so no-one even gets a fair crack of the whip at getting that space. It also takes up two spaces, pretty much. It just sits there all day. And (melodramatic) it blocks loads of light from my front door/window because it is fecking huge and black.

I don't have any argument to give him though. He's in a legitimate space. All he is guilty of is being inconsiderate. Every time I look of of my window and see this behemoth of a vehicle sat there I can feel my piss boiling. Angry

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Toughasoldboots · 02/07/2012 18:38

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mayorquimby · 02/07/2012 18:39

Yeah but this is one of those things where people are split. I see nothing inconsiderate about parking on a public road as do many others.

I find the people who think they own a space of road that happens to be outside their house or people who mark a space with cones to be the inconsiderate ones.
So it's not really a simple case of thinking of others as many people will think of them and conclude "who'd get upset over something that has nothing to do with them/anyone who gets upset over a public space has a weird sense of entitlement"

WhiteWidow · 02/07/2012 18:42

It's blocking her light, that's what her problem is. Why couldn't he be considerate and

  1. Not insist on having 3 cars or
  2. Park the smaller one there
CaliforniaLeaving · 02/07/2012 18:42

Start tucking fast food wrappers and rubbish under his windscreen wipers and tuck it in the bumpers, make it look abandoned. It might piss him off enough to move it.

LittleTyga · 02/07/2012 18:43

Bake some muffins - pop over - ask very sweetly if he wouldn't mind parking elsewhere in order to allow some sunlight in to your home. Might just work?

SoleSource · 02/07/2012 18:43

There is NOTHING OP can legally do WhiteWidow OP has acknowledged this fact.

WhiteWidow · 02/07/2012 18:45

I never said there was did I? I never said anything about anything being legal or illegal, I said it was inconsiderate and rude.

Is this your car by any chance Hmm

RedHelenB · 02/07/2012 18:47

Turn your front garden into a driveway?

holidaysarenice · 02/07/2012 18:48

Have you considered that in paving his driveway he cud have broken the law, re the lowering of the kerb on/off at the pavement? Planning p is needed xx

Toughasoldboots · 02/07/2012 18:48

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Glaikit · 02/07/2012 18:49

Bupcakes, my neighbour has a broken down car on his drive. I could send it to you to park outside your door, at least it's smaller than the beast, and you could paint a pretty picture on it!

SoleSource · 02/07/2012 18:50
Confused

People are inconsiderate and rude. Just today some cunt drove at me at full speed instead of giving way as was his obligation according to the highway code. He then proceeded to shout abuse at me.

Off topic but I was Shock at my calm reaction, must be my age.

I do have a car, yes but not that one.

SundaeGirl · 02/07/2012 18:52

I agree with MayorQimby. Surely the parking has always been there? Confused. Didn't the OP notice when she moved in?

If it was a man-with-van hard working plumber type the effect on the OP would be the same (blocked light by ugly vehicle) but she'd probably be a lot less pissed off. This just comes down to a curtain twitching her-in-the-house-at-number-24-with-orrible-cars objection to the neighbour when he's got parking issues like everyone else.

SoleSource · 02/07/2012 18:54

Dropped kerb OP. About £500 ish??????

Cheaper if you have a disabled member of the family?

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 02/07/2012 18:57

It is inconsiderate because he can't be arsed to move his car to let his wife out, but he'll make his neighbour park down the road and block her light.

helenthemadex · 02/07/2012 19:01

how about next time you see him you say you are very sorry to hear about his problems in the trouser area with his very small and insignificant penis, and say that you hope his large gas guzzler is proving to be an adequate substitute

SundaeGirl · 02/07/2012 19:05

So, every time the wife wants to leave her DH should go out and move his car too? Really? Wouldn't it just be easier if he parked on the street like everyone else?

quoteunquote · 02/07/2012 19:06

what ever you do, when the children are covered in sunblock, don't let them brush against the paintwork as they squeeze past, it would ruin the paint work.

FutureNannyOgg · 02/07/2012 19:07

I feel for you, I used to have a neighbour (on a terraced st where no one had drives, the front gardens weren't deep enough) who had a carpet cleaning business and used to park 3 long wheel base transits on the street, that's at least 4 car spaces, plus his personal car. I used to fantasize about various ways to take out my frustrations on them.

trixie123 · 02/07/2012 19:11

we used to live in a row of terraces and it was always touch and go if you could park close but everyone had a fair chance so it was an annoyance but fair enough. Then the (rented) end house got a new tenant who permanently parked (but never was seen driving) THREE jags all along the whole row so that no-one ever had a chance. At the time I was pregnant and had a non-walking toddler so having to park some distance away was a mare. I never understood why he rented a house with no parking if he had these cars. Arse!

sleepybump · 02/07/2012 19:14

Just knock and ask if he wouldnt mind parking his new large car on his drive as it doesnt seem to be in use and is cutting out your light, so the smaller car on the road might free up some space for everyone?

Unless his wifes disabled this seems like a reasonable thing to ask.

Debs75 · 02/07/2012 19:16

My next door neighbour refuses to use her drive but then parks her car right upto her boundary with ther other neighbour so they then struggle to park their cars or even get one on the drive. Really she is as mean and nasty as they get regarding parking and berates anyone who deems to park in 'her space'

PJulie · 02/07/2012 19:17

Has he lowered the curb to his drive, if not take to parking outside his house so his wife can not get out of the drive.

SundaeGirl · 02/07/2012 19:21

A house in your street has two cars? OK? OK
But they won't park so they block each other in? And this is not OK? Why not OK?

Please OP don't scratch the car, use it as a skip, call him a cunt, smear it with sun cream or any other crazy neighbour type stuff. So he's parking so he's not blocking anyone in? That is considerate, you just don't happen to like that he's considerate of his DW.

Tabliope · 02/07/2012 19:24

I'd definitely ask them politely. I had the same problem with neighbours opposite parking a van outside mine. My house is lower than the pavement so you couldn't actually see anything else when you looked outside. It wasn't so much blocking the light as north facing anyway but I did hate looking out and only seeing that van. The woman of the house popped in to see me once for a coffee and immediately said I'm so sorry, you can't have that van outside all the time and made her husband move it and never park it there again.

I'd say I'm really sorry to ask but is there anyway you could park somewhere else sometimes. You might be really surprised. You could always make up something about someone in the house having a long term illness and you need the space on the off chance of access for an ambulance (not sure how comfortable you'd being making this up).