AIBU to let a troll continue

[Pocketsocks]

I find myself in a bit of a sticky situation, and I hope you can all advise.
I'm a member of a small online community, we've known each other a good few years and are quite close. We've had a troll amongst us before which I "unmasked" with another member (pretend suicide from a member and then rejoins as a different person to watch)
I'm now concerned we have another one.
Now I know to some of you the whole thing might seem a little juvenille, unessercery drama, witch hunts blah blah but I genuinly worry about my friends getting hurt by this person who's stories don't add up to me (date contradictions etc)
However this person for now is pretty benign and I know that anything I do say could also cause pain, as we see this person as a friend and it doesn't seem fair that I throw accusations around. But what of the consequences if I don't?
So do I let it play out. Watch for the next drama and hope my friends don't get too invested?
WWYD?

Some people change dates/details/no of DC's etc in order to remain anonymous, so if I were you I'd do nothing on the site for now but keep an eye out.

The previous story does sound horrible so I understand why you wouldn't want it to happen again - but you wouldn't want to jump on a real person re a true story in error. (atrocious grammar there, apologies)

Do you know any of the other members in RL - could you talk to them quietly about this and see do they feel the same?

Does the board have admin or mods?
Why not raise your concerns with one of them, hopefully they will then be able to keep an eye on what is being posted

Personally, I would approach the individual with the date contradictions and ask them outright if they are genuine. There may be an explanation and it is fair to let someone have their say.

If you are worried about friends getting hurt but you have no proof, all you can do is be aware. There are no real 'consequences' most of the time, someone might get taken in, but if the other women involved are sensible, capable adults, you do not have a duty to look after them. Are they sensible enough not to send money/offer to visit? If they are vulnerable in some way, it may be an idea to let them know your suspicions so that they can make their own choices.

But in the end, people have to make their own judgements.

I change dates and details sometimes on mumsnet because it is a public forum on the Internet, I want to keep some anonymity, maybe this person is doing the same. It's awful if someone is taking advantage of your kindness and leading you on with a story, but it would be even worse if this person was genuine and asked for help/support only to be turned away.