To leave passive aggressive comments aimed at MIL on my Facebook?

[D0oinMeCleanin]

It's childish, yes, but I feel it's reasonable.

She pulled that face when I told her about my college course. When I asked DH why she pulled that face (if she has anything to say about me it's always to him and he never defends me) he told me that she cannot understand why I want to work with dogs when I never walk mine and I don't feed them properly.

So now I am pissed off. Very pissed off.

Every spare second I have is spent with those dogs. Bar the children, which goes without saying really, they are the only thing I have my life that I derive any pleasure from. I have spent hours every week lately training with the terrier, not to mention the £65 I shelled out to pay for his obedience course.

The cat no longer lives upstairs, he's happily living back in all of the house safe in the knowledge that the terrier no longer views him as food. This is not by magic, it is by training both the dog and the cat.

So now I am leaving status' on my Facebook documenting every dog walk we go on and every meal they're given. With sarcastic comments about how neglected my poor hounds are.

It is unreasonable isn't it? I know this. I also know it shouldn't bother me. I know my dogs are well cared for I shouldn't care what other people think but for some reason I do. I really care. It really bothers me that anyone could believe I would anything less than my best for them.

NB: MIL is not my FB but SIL is and while she never comments on any of posts, she does for some reason seem to report each one of them back to MIL

Your DH led her to believe that you don't walk your dogs so she's none the wiser and basing her opinion on false information.

Please tell me how you trained your terrier to not try to eat the cat. My cat would really like to know :(

Terrier on a lead. Cat safely in a dog crate. Click and treat only when the terrier is sitting calmly.

Once the terrier is calm on entering the room with the cat in the crate/up high somewhere, let him off the lead. Click and treat for ignoring the cat.

Have a small helper treat the cat for not running.

It won't work on other people's cats. Those are still on menu. He just can't catch the flighty little meals on legs (fortunately)

Thanks, will give it a try. Unfortunately my westie isn't particularly interested in food, unless it's furry and running for it's life. Strangely enough, he doesn't bother with strange cats and he's scared of the ones that live at mums.

I wrote a passive aggressive status on facebook aimed at my MIL once, she responded with much more passive aggression. She is the queen of passive aggressiveness. I found it easier in the end to just say what I wanted to say, which resulted in her 'not speaking to me', what a result!!

I would be a bit upset if someone suggested I didn't care for my dogs properly, but sometimes you have to have a bit of a thick skin about these things. There are people who (I suspect) think I'm wrong to have large breeds in a small house, or to feed dry food, or to leave them for a few hours, or to not have my old dog 'put to sleep' (he has some mobility issues, but is not in pain and has a great quality of life IMO), or indeed to have dogs at all while living in London.

But I know my dogs are happy and well cared for, and from what I 'know' of you from your posts on here, so are yours. And that's all that matters. The Facebook thing is silly and childish, and not worth your time and effort. If your MIL/SIL want to gossip and bitch about you, let them get on with it. Just don't let them drag you down to their level.

I see where you are coming from, DOoin but it's precisely because of the constant Passive Agressive Wars that I find Facebook increasingly intolerable. So I rather suspect that, if I knew you in RL, I could just as easily post an AIBU along the lines of "To want my friend to conduct family hostilities from the Home Front and not all over Facebook".

Because I suspect your MIL is just loving the passive aggressive public attention and is, even now, practicing an even more annoying face to piss you off with.

I've stopped now. I got bored. Now I am uploading my walks to FB via Endomondo, which I did last time DH was insisting our dogs never get walked. He would know, given that when he is not at work he is sleeping either in bed or on the sofa and is unaware of what I am doing 90% of the time.

I stopped uploading them not because I stopped walking the dogs, as people clearly believe but because, as anyone who knows me can verify, I am not very good at remembering to take my phone with me when I leave the house. Or answer it. Or reply to texts. Or use any of the many organisation apps I have. Unless I am going to work, in which case I need it to MN from or to read off of.

Plus I got a new phone and it's heavy and walking dogs with jeans that do not want to stay up and a not very mini, mini computer in my pocket is a recipe for disaster.

He's being very weird, D0oin, very weird. And a bit of a twerp for "insisting" that he knows that you are not doing things. That would piss me off to no end.

All this over some comments about dogs who do not know what day it is.