Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

In having 4 DCs, and still using buggy for DD....

69 replies

Inthepotty · 02/07/2012 08:33

Have just dropped older DCs off at school.

DD (3yrs, just!) had massive tantrum this morning as she wanted to go on her scooter. It's about 2 miles to school, few busy roads, and piss pouring down. Being the cruel mother I am, I stuck her in the buggy and set off.

DD was still moaning and flailing by the time we were going in the gates. Horrid viper woman (who has one DS in my DTs class) turned to her friend and said VERY loudly

"People shouldn't have as many children if they can't control them, my DS never carried on like that in his buggy, he was out of his pushchair by the time he was 2, I just carried him if he was tired." Also a very pointed look in my direction.

Now, I'm not really sure what she expects me to do- I'm told you can't actually shove DCs back?! They're not a bad bunch really, DD just being 3 and hard work at the mo. Am now having a wobble that she's too old for her buggy. She does look older than she is, I suppose.

AIBU to spend all day alternating between panicking I should be making her walk, and hoping this horrid cow trips up into a puddle??

OP posts:
Mrsjay · 02/07/2012 09:55

oh I bet her ds also poops rainbows Grin you were having a bad morning your dd was having a bad morning it must have been stressful for everybody,

My youngest dd was still using a buggy at 3 I used to take her to preschool in it it was a mile away somedays she would walk with the buggy some days she went in it , If your dd still needs the buggy then let her be in it , 2 miles is a long way for little legs especially if its going to school you dont have time to doddle really ,

pepperrabbit · 02/07/2012 09:57

Nip her ankles with your buggy next time you see her.
Apologise insincerely profusely
This is a good solution as just kicking her would make you feel better but might look a bit suspicious Grin

DrowninginDuplo · 02/07/2012 10:00

Tell her to stick it. Ds2 is a big lad, I can't carry him. A prop forward couldn't carry him. He's just three and whilst he can walk a fair way he can't walk for ever and sometimes needs to be a pushchair. I get some funny looks because he doesn't really fit. I used to carry him all the time (slings, backpacks etc). But these days I just can't.

I'd have pushed her into the puddle.

YouOldSlag · 02/07/2012 10:03

YANBU. I would not have been able to resist giving her a hissy ice maiden mouthful. You've just walked two miles.

Judgemental cow

HipHopOpotomus · 02/07/2012 10:10

She's being a mouthy judgemental busy-body cow. Give her "daggers" (stabby eyes) and move on.

BaronessBomburst · 02/07/2012 10:18

I hope you said, "I'm sorry, but did you mean that to sound so rude?" Grin

And as another poster once said on a similar thread, how is pushing them around in a buggy any different to driving them everywhere by car?

mumeeee · 02/07/2012 10:19

YANBU. It's fine to use a buggy for a 3 yer old if that what you want to do,especially if it's 2 miles to school, I used to use the buggy for my youngest when she was 4 and even occansionally at 5 if we had a lot of walking to do,

TheSpokenNerd · 02/07/2012 10:23

My DD was in her buggy at 3....my friend has hauled her son out of his and he's only 2.4! Poor little thing.

Mrsjay · 02/07/2012 10:25

Exactly baroness people drive children about everywhere and they never really walk that far a buggy is no different TBh

birdofthenorth · 02/07/2012 10:30

She should mind her own! DSS was still in a buggy at 3 but walking for 2-3 miles happily at 4.

DD is not yet 2 but will rarely accept a buggy ride. Bloody pain as I then up carrying her & shopping or her & two large dogs on leads!

Do whatever you can to get through the morning rush would be my motto in your situation!

sesameflower · 02/07/2012 10:31

Im still using a buggy with my huge 3 year old. My back is happier that way.

The woman sounds like a bitchy busy body. None of her business.

kickingKcurlyC · 02/07/2012 10:46

If you don't drive, a buggy is invaluable for preschool children, and I wouldn't be ashamed to use one at all in your situation.

Booette · 02/07/2012 11:43

YANBU.

I chucked my first 4 out of the pushchair at 2.5. They were all great at walking.

DS5 was a different matter, plus we'd moved and had miles of school run, which after a whole day at playgroup is very tiring. So he stayed in the buggy till he was 4. He's small though, so no one took much notice. No way would I have carried him!

He's 5 now and happily walks miles at a quick enough pace to not drive me insane!

Meglet · 02/07/2012 11:46

yanbu. DS was using the phil & teds buggy until he was 4.6. DD is still in there at 3.8. I couldn't care less.

Old people were always nice when DS was still in the double, lots of old ladies said they wished they had them back in their day.

FateLovesTheFearless · 02/07/2012 11:52

I would told her to remove the stick up her arse and mind her own, with one of my special looks that have people backing right down Grin

I have the 4dc, my youngest is two and the others stopped with a buggy about three but I don't give a damn what other parents do.

tiredteddy · 02/07/2012 11:52

You have to do what works for you, your family and your routine. Never mind what other people think. My 4.8 DS still goes in buggy sometimes. I walk everywhere a lot of miles to nursery and school. If he is tired or ill it's the buggy. I'd rather that than crying and shouting from both of us. Ignore the judgemental lady!

AdventuresWithVoles · 02/07/2012 12:09

yanbu. Everything she had to say reflects badly on her & has nothing to do with your own life choices.

CamperFan · 02/07/2012 12:24

You were keeping your child under control - in a buggy. What a nasty woman. (the rude one, not you OP)

pigletmania · 02/07/2012 12:42

Ignore horrid viper lady, I would have politely said to her that she should not judge unless she is absolutely perfect. Which is impossible

SoleSource · 02/07/2012 12:45

Another utter nutcase. More out than in eh? You react you give her what she wants which is to see that she gets to you. Thus reinforcing her wrong assumption she is better than you. Just totally ignore her. She is looking for attention.

People whom feel the need to put others down do so because they feel shyte inside themselves. For those seconds the put down maks them feel good until they need another victim. What a sad cycle to be in. Feel pity for her x

KitCat26 · 02/07/2012 12:57

Do what you like and ignore the judgy cow, 4 miles is a long way for a little one.

DD1 was out of the buggy mostly from about 19 months. She used to walk nicely and hold my hand or the buggy (DD2 was a couple of months old by then). Now they are 1 and 2 (nearly 3) if DD1 gets really tired she gets to go in the buggy and her sister sits on her lap! (I do get some looks but don't give a damn Grin)

DD2 is a bolter though so will be in it longer.

CharlotteWasBoth · 02/07/2012 13:06

This reply has been deleted

Withdrawn at the user's request

catus · 02/07/2012 13:32

YANBU, not at all. How can people be so rude? I just don't get it! A 3 yo having a tantrum in a buggy is really not something exceptionnal, is it?

Yorkpud · 02/07/2012 13:39

I used the buggy for a much shorter journey until my second son was nearly 4. This was because he was such a pain on the school run that I felt it was safer for him to be strapped down!!! He didn't like holding my hand and would scream 'ow' at the top of his voice when I held his hand but would run off if he didn't hold my hand.

McHappyPants2012 · 02/07/2012 13:44

my dd just turned 3 still uses her buggy. If she will not hold my hand lies on the floor with reins than she is in the buggy.

Rather her in a buggy than getting killed on the road

Swipe left for the next trending thread