To think I handled this well and didn't need to turn violent??

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DP and I were going out for a meal. Before we went we both agreed that we wouldn't spend all night on our phones = as I didn't want to be ignored all night again.

So we get in the restraunt, order starters and DP gets out his phone and starts texting someone. I let it go - as food hadn't arrived and I was trying to be reasonable. Then, starters arrived, DP gets out his phone and starts texting again leaving me to serve the starters. I asked "who are you texting??" and he snapped "I'm texting a colleague now don't fucking start or you'll be eating the fucking phone!".

Shocked, I stood up, got my coat and walked out. Got a taxi home and left him there looking like a twat.

I was talking to my friend about it who said I should have made him "wear the drink" before leaving - another friend said she would have tipped the plate of starters over his head.

AIBU to think that actually, I handled it ok???

I mean I made this face:

He is not your DP - he's an arse and you should take the time to evaluate this relationship.

There is just the tiniest hint that this is just part of an argument and that you have got used to being second best to a phone - I'm just really hoping you will post and say that it was the final straw for you.

You honestly must deserve better than this.

He's trashed the house??

Do you have children?

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Glad you're leaving.

I'd welcome him home with all his shit in binbags on the front step and a key in the back of the door.

What a twat.

he trashed your house, serously get the fuck out he sounds scary.

Wow, he's trashed the house?!

Are you okay?

Do you have somewhere else you can go tonight?

He sounds unhinged tbh.

If he is trashing the house.
Call the police.
I say that as someone who rarely posts on anything to do with relationships and I dont think I have ever typed 'leave the bastard' seriously.

He sounds like a badly bought up teenager.
If someone broke into your home and trashed your stuff what would you do?

Do that.

I'm fine, please don't worry. "the house" is an exaggeration really, he tipped up the telephone stand, threw the dogs bed and smashed a picture. I'm beyond caring. I was just disappointed that he didn't cut himself on the glass.

I'm in no danger and I'll be able to find a house very soon. Thanks for the concern though x

I would have also walked from the restaurant and out of his life too.

How dare he!

Hope you find somewhere else quickly.

I take it "the house" is his house? otherwise why the hell are you the one doing the leaving? He sounds like a cunt.

I think you do right to leave.
He sounds like a total twat.

I used to have boyfriends like that when i was a teenager. I cant imagine having to live with that sort of behaviour from a partner now.

Life is too short.

Gibbous I totally agree with you, especially in light of further posts.

He sounds like a badly bought up teenager

My thoughts exactly.

OP, do you have any kids?

Jesus. The phone behaviour was beyond rude; the ensuing threat was very nasty and the vandalism on coming home is just horrendous. He sounds a very nasty piece of work, so glad you are going to look for somewhere else to live. The sooner the better, eh? Good luck and take care.

Good question worra. Hope there aren't any children in the house?

I dont even know why you went out for a meal with this person, he sounds like a right catch..

I would be packing my stuff right now and out of there tonight. In fact no, I would have been gone when he trashed the house.

What are you waiting for? Him to start punching you?

You left the bastard, no leave the bastard.

That behaviour is wholly unacceptable, and yes, you handled it perfectly.

Not no , now

Oh come on, OP - haven't you got a friend you could go to tomorrow? You need to get away from this idiot asap.

I do not care about Mr. Jackass, but am concerned about the dog. Who gets the dog?

He threatened you with smashing your face in (thats how I read "eating the fucking phone), and deliberately broke things in your house, and you say you are in no danger?

Get the fuck out. Seriously.

I shouldn't wait until next week, OP. He sounds a thoroughly nasty piece of work. Go as soon as you can.

OP can you let us know that you're ok x

Bumping for the OP